I'm not broke, but I'm currently unemployed. I live with my parents, and I'm attending college full time. There's lots of girls in college that always ask me to hang out, but I'm pretty embarrassed of the fact, I'm not making any money and can't go out and eat with them, or invite them to a treat. My friend whose a police officer tells me I shouldn't worry about that, if a girl doesn't like me when I have no money, then she's definitely not going to like me when I have. He said if a woman truly likes a guy, she would consider the fact he's in college studying to be somebody, instead of working for someone for a minimum wage job. I told him some girls wouldn't understand that, and he just said, that those kinds of girls are not independent; meaning they count of others to get what they want. So, every time I like a girl, I always say I can't hang out, because I'm really embarrassed of not having a job, specially if they'll meet up with their friends. What do you guys/girls think ?
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Your friend is right. If a girl doesn't like you know without money, she won't like you with money either. And if she did, she's not the kind of person you want to be with anyway. You want someone who is going to be with you no matter what. And he is so right about them depending on you. I know girls who do that, and they whine and get upset when their guy won't buy them things, or pay their bills for them.
I've dated guys who had no jobs, as long as they are doing something with their life, either working or going to school, there isn't a problem. It's the guy who is living with his parents, playing video games all day with no motivation that is not someone I would consider dating. Even if you volunteered somewhere and didn't work or go to school that would be better than doing nothing.
I think you should date, there are plenty of cheap and free dating ideas. Cook a dinner together, have a movie night at home, go on a walk in the park, go to free events around the college. Me and my boyfriend do cheap dates all the time. If you can afford groceries, you can afford to make a meal. Switch off who is making what. Even go on group dates, where everyone brings a dish to share and you have it at someone's house.