I've never had a guy interested in me. I have a more masculine (wear guys jeans, ball caps, button down shirts when going out/dressing up, don't wear dresses, skirts, makeup, etc) style of dress and am a college athlete. I would probably also be classified as a "nerd" but I'm not necessarily attracted to other nerds :). Any advice for getting asked out on a date/ guys to notice me?
I don't want to change who I am, or what I wear in order to be noticed, but I would like someone to find me attractive or ask me out on a date.
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" I don't want to change what I wear in order to be noticed."
You mean, dressing in a way that shows off feminine aspects of you that men find attractive?
Call me crazy - but I think that could help.
I'm a college athlete too - I usually wear hoodies and sweats, or a t - shirt and sweats because dressing in outfits with practice and all doesn't make much since.
Honestly, I've had a couple guys ask me if I was into girls - simply because of the way I dress.
So you could be sending a red flag to guys that your a lesbian - which isn't true at all.
it's just the stereotype around sporty girls, on top of you pretty much dressing like a dude, I take it you don't wear make up or do anything appealing your hair - yea makes you seem like you like chicks, not guys.
There's nothing wrong with looking feminine sometimes - at least every once and a while. If you have dude friends, which I'm sure you do, that could be possibly crushing on you, dressing a little fem will only make them want you more.
Men like women for being women. Just like girls like guys for being guys.
You wouldn't want to date a dude wearing tight skinny jean pants, some high heeled furry boots, his nails done and face done - his hair curled up, delicate dainty build - now would you?
You saw a guy like that - your first thought is - hmm he's gay.
Just an example that works vice versa here.
So you dressing straight up like a dude, isn't helping your cause.
With that said - you can still be a tomboy and be attractive.
I know I know - guy's clothes are so f***ing comfortable - but you may have to trade in a couple slacks for some more feminine jeans - the one's that make your ass look good to dudes.
Get some non - baggy, super too big - type t-shirts. So your breast will be flattered a little better.
Play with your hair a bit, maybe a little make up - emphasize your natural beauty a bit.
Be flirty - I don't know bout you, but I have a habit of taking on that " dude" mentality around guys. I'll be dressed in heels and a tight fitting dress and still bust a fart joke with some friends ha ha -
Sometimes it helps to be a bit more fem though - even though you could probably kick a dudes ass, playing the more cutesy girlie card, guys kind of soak up.
You don't have to turn into miss beauty queen - just try something like this:
lol I know it's a cartoon - but her outfit resembles what I wear usually :P
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