I'm not ugly, don't get me wrong, I'm not exactly perfect! I'm chatty, witty, funny, sporty, kind etc. Basically, I'm a nice girl! Why do guys only ever see me as a friend? What can I do to change the way I am perceived by you? Please help, I miss spooning so much haha!
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It's impossible to say without knowing you. However the most likely suggestions have mostly been covered below:
- You're not as attractive as you think. You don't have to be a supermodel, just not ugly. Alternatively, you might be attractive, but you don't put your looks to good use. You don't have to wear super-low tops and dress like a slut to show off your looks. But occasionally wearing a bit of makeup (ONLY a bit) and getting dressed up is likely to make you get notices a lot more. If you put some pics of yourself on your profile I'm sure we'd be more than happy to give you an honest opinion on your looks.
- You're one of the lads. It's fine to have male friends and to have some typically male hobbies or interests, but if you just act like a lad, you're only going to attract a limited number of guys. For example it's fine if you're in the army or love football or whatever, but if you walk around farting and threatening people it's not an attractive look. Also, if you go out with a group of girls on a night out or something, you're more likely to get attention than if you go out with 90% lads. A mixed group is good too.
- You just don't make yourself available. Try flirting a bit more. Instead of waiting for someone to find you irresistible from across the room (which obviously isn't working, no offense), try approaching a few guys. On a similar note, try to look confident and things. If you hide quietly in a corner, there's no wonder nobody has noticed you. However there is a fine line between confident and arrogant/cocky. Don't talk over everyone, act like you're the hottest person in the world, and be a general bitch.
- There is another possibility... you could be too hot so guys are scared to approach you. But I think that's unlikely based on your description of yourself.
These are all possible reasons why you might not have lots of people coming after you. However the reality is that most girls are average. You're probably normal. And by definition that means you don't stand out from the crowd. So it's not that people couldn't fancy you, it's just that they don't because you don't do anything to make them fancy you over the next "nice girl". If you wait long enough, then someone will notice you because you'll be a good match for them and you'll be the specific type of sort of "normal" girl that he likes. If you want to speed this up, or if you don't care about him being exactly the right guy to settle down with forever, you just want someone who's company you can enjoy and who you can spoon with then just make yourself more available by doing the things suggested above.
If you live in the North of England I'd be happy to meet you and give you specific advice and we could maybe even have a spooning session lol.
I hope this helps. If you want any more help or advice let me know :)0