I've been talking to this girl for a few weeks and we really clicked. But we chilled one time and I was very Flirty and she wasn't, now I thinks I just want her for sex but she said she doesn't think that. Now we are more.distant and I don't want to lose her. People told me to take her on a date and pay for everything but I feel I'm buying her affection which I don't want to. I really like her and want to show her that for.free and the problem is she really doesn't want to hang out I guess Because of the sex thing. What should I do to get her back without feeling like a.chump?
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Since when was taking a girl on a date the equivalent of buying her affection. Dating is the way you differentiate yourself from being a player or just a friend. Buying expensive gifts or pretty much any gifts other than flowers while you first start dating, that is trying to buy someone's affection. Don't do that.
I also cannot tell what you want. Your grammar made it pretty much impossible to understand your 2nd sentence. Do you just want to have her for sex? If so, don't date her, that is what people do to start a relationship. However, sounds like she is not down for that so move on to a girl that just wants a fling. I am not a fan of flings but if you are honest with a girl and tell her all you want is sex, well you might find someone who will go along with your plan.
So get over this idea that dating is about buying affection. Dating is about getting to know each other. And, yes, you are the guy, you should pay but you also get to control what you are paying for. So, keep it cool but within your budget, something that is not extravagant.1