Basically I went on a few dates with a girl and it seemed like things were going good. So invited her to an upcoming dance on New Years and she accepted. That was a week ago. After that she started ignoring me, barely answered text messages, avoided me at a social event we both happened to be at, basically giving me tell tale signs she wasn't interested anymore. Now I'm not upset about this at all, if a girl isn't interested, so be it, I'll live, but she never came right out and said it, which irritated me a bit. So after a week of almost complete silence from her, I texted her "So I'm going to assume you're not interested in us being more than friends, but I need to know if you still want to come to the dance with me" and never got a reply. I'm OK with it all, but my close friend said this probably came off as creepy and desperate, something I wasn't trying to do at all. What do you think?
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Some people just will not come out and say they don't want to see you anymore. They will use non-verbal signals to let you know. That is what this girl did.
Other people will go to the extreme of doing things to irritate the other person so that the other person walks away or breaks up. I had that happen to me. I have a cousin who told me that is what she does. She said she just cannot tell someone that it is over. So, instead, she will get very flaky and irritate the other person so that they break up.
I don't think what you did was creepy or desperate. I would do that as well. But, now that you have and she has not responded, it would be creepy to push her any further. Just be prepared for the other very irritating part of this process. Usually the other person, if they ever end up having a convo with you about this, will act like they don't know what you are talking about, never got your message, tell you they do like you, etc. That is super annoying to me, but it happens.0