OK so I've gotten myself into a bit of a sticky situation. Three different guys at my school are interested in me and I am interested back. But of course I can't have them all so who do I choose! I've been pondering this for a few weeks now and cannot come to a conclusion because they all seem to have the same number of pros and cons!
Guy A - he's sweet, he's truthful, he's nice, he's smart. We have been friends for a while and one-on-one is wonderful. But put him in any sort of a social situation and he becomes a total awkward turtle. He's very quiet and will barely talk. But he will talk to me and we can have good, intellectual conversations etc. I can be completely myself around him and not feel reserved at all. But most of the time we are in social situations and that's when he says almost nothing at all.
Guy B - he is almost two years older than me but is so much fun. We laugh and play games and sing in public. He's really funny and knows how to have a good time. He is slightly emotional, but in a good way. I am very comfortable around him but only worry about what he would want from me in a relationship (sex, etc) because of the age difference.
Guy C - Right now, we are really close, really good friends. I love talking with him and feel like we can talk about anything without reserves. But, he has dated one of my close friends and one of my ex-friends, which makes me worried about how our relationship would affect them, especially because I know the ex-friend still has feelings for him.
Vote for which one you think would make me the happiest and post why if you have time! Thanks so much for helping me with this confusing time
- Guy AVote A
- Guy BVote B
- Guy CVote C
- NoneVote D
Most Helpful Girl
What I'll tell you might sound harsh but I'm sure there is some truth to it. I'd say that if you can't choose any of those guys yourself, you don't truly love any of them. Caring about someone is way different than loving someone. If you had romantic feelings for one of them, you'd know right away. You wouldn't even be asking yourself that question. I'm not saying you don't care for any of them. What I mean is that right now, you're at the preliminary phase where all your options are open and you just have to get to know that person better. You're "pre-date", so to speak. Besides, since you seem to be friends with all of those guys, you have to realize that not all of those are necessarily romantically interested in you. Just because you feel like you would date them doesn't mean that all of them feel the same way. Until one of them asks you out on a proper date, interpreting someone's intentions from your perspective is pretty pointless in my opinion. I know you don't mean to but I feel like you're trying to pick a guy like you're browsing a catalog. I'd say wait until one of those guys make a move or make a move yourself. A date doesn't obligate you to anything. It's just a way to get to know the other person better. Once you do, your attraction to either of those guys will seem way clearer and then you'll be able to "choose" which one you'd rather pursue or not.
By the way, no need to worry about guy B's intentions right away. I'm in a relationship with a guy two year older than me. It's not because this guy is older that he's going to try to get in your pants on date 1 and force you to have sex. You haven't even dated yet, so you can calm down and take things as they go. I'd say don't think about sex until you ARE in a relationship and things get heated between you guys.0