I tried online dating (serious paying site for two months) and I'm quite turned off by women's attitude in general. Almost all seem so full of themselves and conceited it's very disappointing. I'm contacting some in my age range and overall am polite, funny and pleasant. But I get almost no answer, even when they are the ones sending me icebreakers first, what's up with that?
And I'm not even going after the hottest ones because in real life I found most have horrible personalities anyway.
I'm far from being desperate, I go on real dates regularly and have had good (and a couple bad) relationships. I have a killer carrier and salary, told I'm very handsome and really fun to be around. I'm just looking for a woman who is right for me and thought reaching out to many women through online dating might bring someone very interesting. But I find women on there so freaking rude. Most seem to think they are way above everybody else it's bizarre! They put tons of pictures of themselves (many with other guys which I find very tacky and screaming insecurity) and wanting a man to make them laugh is always listed before anything else... I'm quite doubting that it is their most important criteria...
The only thing I guess might explain why most don't answer is because I'm only 5'8 and not lying about it on my profile.
It has been a weird experience because in all honesty I contacted women that in all fairness are below me look wise, education wise, carrier wise etc.. But I wanted to get to know quite a few to may be find a great girl with a wonderful personality. I end up being extremely disappointed and decide to go back to real life dating where I am much more successful, which is a bit puzzling.
My profile gets looked at regularly and like I said I receive icebreakers too so I think my profile and pics get some attention. It's after that that not much happens. I'm wondering if most are there for ego boosting only or what?
I'm interested to hear from the other side of the fence.
(thanks to foolycooly for noticing)
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Online dating is tough! I have been doing online dating since I was 18, on and off of course as relationships developed. I have met many people online, and it's basically just a toss up. You never know who you are going to meet. It's best to not go in and expect anything. I know that sounds terrible but it's true.
There are some girls on there that are ridiculous, I can remember reading some of the profiles of girls, because I was checking out the competition. Some of them were looking for a guy with tones of money, good looking, great career, etc.. and yet they were listed as "unemployed" or working as at restaurants as a server. Some girls would even put on their profiles "don't message me if you don't have money, or aren't cute, etc.."
I would get messages, but it seems the most visited profiles are of the highly attractive girls, not surprising. Just wanted to see what others were posting. I worked hard on my profile and updated it frequently. Adding new pics and new information. Its good to do that because dating sites are constantly getting new members.
Your profile sounds great. Lots of pictures of the places you have travelled. I would have messaged you! Mainly I stuck to guys who I felt would message me back too. I didn't go for highly attractive, but was getting tired of not getting any messages and started just mass messaging many guys at the same time.
Maybe the problem is in the messages? What are you saying in the messages? I found the best success was in introducing yourself in a short concise message while asking questions about their profile. This shows that you have read and are actually interested. The worst messages, that I often got and ignored were from people who would put "hi" or "ur hot" or "hi cuti pie, whtsup?" That might sound harsh, but I put lots of effort in, and I didn't want to talk to someone who wasn't really interested and was just trying the site out for kicks. If you want to come across as serious, then you have to send good messages too.
Message lots of people, regardless of if you think they are in your 'league' or not. I kept going back and forth on whether I was going to message my current boyfriend, because I thought he was so attractive and a great overall guy. Safe to say it was a good move, because we have been dating almost a year :) I feel very fortunate to have found him :D
Good luck, need any help feel free to message me!0