Boyfriend doesn't get turned on by kissing....help?!

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend just told me he doesn't get turned on by kissing. We have never kissed so I know it's not ME, but what do you make of this? Why doesn't he like kissing!?!?

[kingston_RAM]

I'm not aroused by kissing either. For me it's because my first real girlfriend when we first kissed just kind of stuck her tongue in my mouth and it wasn't all that great but she liked it and so it became a little bit of a chore. Other contact while kissing and signals that more is okay (such as the girl moaning into my mouth as she allows me to explore her body) does it for me.

Nothing is wrong with him or you it's just that people are different. You should learn this at some point.

Now, you WILL have a problem if he refuses to kiss you at all. This could mean a psychological problem on his part. I might not get turned on by the act preferring other intimate contact instead but I will kiss the girl I'm with because I know she likes (and is turned on by) it. I don't try to start the act myself but I also usually don't turn her down when she wants to kiss me. And what is a relationship but two people giving and taking for the other persons happiness as well as your own?

My advice: if the next time you're with him and you want to kiss him ask him to kiss you (straight out ask and don't try to give hints that he'll most likely avoid or not notice as he may be looking for something else). Ask him and see what he says or does and explain to him that YOU like it. Don't pressure him if he turns you down but ask him what DOES excite him and see if you're open to doing that (could be feeling you up or a BJ or some other intimate contact) then you can "trade" one behavior for the other. If he isn't willing to kiss you under these circumstances then you need to move on with your life and leave the guy that doesn't compromise a little for you alone as he will only bring you heartbreak later in a relationship.

I hope this has helped. Sorry I tend to ramble.

[islands7]

He's not been told he's a good kisser.

Gals love kissing more than guys

Guys consider kissing "first base", looking to steal home .. this could be a turn on if home is a real possibility

Younger guys that are barred from home/real sex are most likely to get turned on by kissing ... but real sex adventures later take the front seat.

[Anonymous]

My ex was just like this. I don't know if he was just inexperienced, or just didn't like the feel of lips on lips. Maybe your boyfriend doesn't like the feeling, maybe it grosses him out, I don't know. I know kissing is an important part of some relationships, and it was hard for me since I like to kiss the one I love, but I just dealt with it and accepted it. I wouldn't take it personally, though, I'm sure it is not you.

[untypical-joe]

it probably has to do with his past experience with it. and maybe he is awkward with it. ask him what his envision of a perfect kiss would be like where he would get totally turned on by it. how it would be.. see what he says.

[grg9smith]

just kiss him and find out he just told you that doesn't mean anything...maybe he dated a bad kisser...KISS WITH PASSION! best of luck

[b222ster]

LoL. He likes kissing, just kissing can't get his d*** hard. I for example can't get hard from tit jobs, I go limp super fast while getting a tit job.

[palek]

Perhaps he's more interested in wresting with teenage boys?

[wes5566]

Kissing is a big deal for girls. Not so much for men. Its's nice, but it just doesn't do much for us. If you really want to arouse him, stroke him.