what are the normal "steps" of online dating...how long till you give the guy your number? how long should you wait till going on a date? how long till you go to his house? how can you make sure you're being as safe as possible? I mean there's no verification they even are named what they tell you! I have guys left and right asking me questions, and some are so old! is it rude to say if you're over 29 don't write me on my profile? some write how are you I answer and they want my number...is that normal? HELP PLEASE!
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I only know one guy who did a lot of online dating (when single) and was 'effective' at it - i.e. got lots of good dates.
He'd browse profiles and ones he liked, he'd send them a short note asking them to coffee/drink. Immediately. There might end up being some back and forth, but he'd ask to meet right away. He told me that online dating is just weird, and the way to make it less weird is to get it offline as quickly as possible. There are of course plenty of people on online dating sites who are just there to flirt and get attention, so it weeds them out. People who are actually looking to meet, based on your profile, should be able to tell if they want to invest half an hour in meeting you. Talking a lot before meeting is sort of a waste of time - if things don't flow in person, its not going anywhere.
i'd guess he'd do the quick 'drinks/coffee' thing, then a proper date after that, and since he was a manwhore, there was a pretty good chance he'd end up back at his place after that. But not necessarily.
I wouldn't give out a number, I'd check out their profile and see if you want to meet for a drink. If it goes badly, you don't see them again. You're going to get a much better feel for them in person then talking back and forth online.1