I met someone via an online dating site. He gave me his number, and said he would welcome mine (notice he didn't ask for it - this appears to be a pattern). He immediately called and we spoke over an hour. From that point, he's only texted me to say he enjoyed meeting me and then "hint" at the next "meeting." We've gone on two "dutch" dates (I didn't know how to handle the situation when the check came, so I offered to pay for my modest meal and he went along with it). It seems he's shown other signs of romantic interests (listens attentively, looks me straight in the eye when either of us is speaking, smiles in a shy way, gives little compliments like my outfit looks nice , or my hair looks nice). by the way, he's not shy but he is introverted (and I know there is a difference). I noticed he doesn't "ask" me on a date but makes a statement and waits for me to verbally throw back the ball and "nail" the specifics. Likewise, he makes suggestions for activities in future months.He's also made tiny attempts to touch me - a light touch on the arm, a few moments of holding my hand, a brief hug.
My questions: Is this guy interested in a platonic or romantic relationship with me? And WHY does he text (and keep it to brief, direct exchanges) rather than call me?
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i would say I'm in such a position a few years ago.
i wasn't very educated in how to handle social settings. I was afraid to make phone calls because I didn't have time to think and plan my reply. I don't know how to act on a date. I don't even know if I'm supposed to pick up the check or send her home. these things aren't taught to me when I was a kid. perhaps he is in such a position now.
these things come with experience and I think that guy whom you've been dating online lacks experience. ask him about his dating experiences and maybe that can be an interesting conversation topic as well as letting you know why he acts that way.
if you want to know if he likes you, perhaps you could ask him in a non-confrontational manner to see what he thinks would be the sort of girl he likes, then asking him if you fit the bill. I've been asked that before(:
hope this helps(:1