I been talking to this girl for about 3 and a half months now but I've known her for about 4 months now. The problem is we are not officially boyfriend and girlfriend. During the course of one of our conversations I asked her if she was still figuring out if she liked me to the point of being her boyfriend. She said she wasn't figuring it out anymore but just double checking. She used the analogy of finishing a school exam but going over the answer to make sure everything's okay.
Now I don't have much relationship experience but just a couple thing:
a) Is the double checking thing normal or reasonable I should say? I don't mind waiting but I just don't want to waste my time, hence it been almost 4 months. I feel like we should be making some moves by now. You have and advice? insight?
b) this pretty much tags on to part a. Like in part a I said I don't mind waiting but it makes me feel insecure( because of past experiences of being in similar situations and it never happening) that she still double checking 4 months down the line. Thus this feeling is making me feel like I shouldn't close off other girl as I have. Do you think it's okay for me to talk to other girls and how to communicate that to the girl I'm talking to now? If it's not okay how would you react to this situation. Is it just a matter of waiting? what's your insight?
Again I don't have much relationship experience ( thought I'd put that out there so people take me seriously.)
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a. no. I have never been in a situation where I need to double check. I mean, I don't even know what she means by that. if she isn't sure about you at this point after dating so long, she's never going to be sure because you're not the one for her, but she also doesn't want to be alone so she strings you along. is that what you want? you need to tell her, "look, I like you. and you need to decide if this is what you want. it's a simple yes or no question." and if her answer is still she needs more time, then you need to walk out because she isn't into you
b. yes, definitely talk to other girls because I promise you she's talking to other guys and checking out her options. she might even have another guy she likes better that she's waiting for. and if he wants her, then bye to you and if he doens't want her, then you're her second option.