I don't really like to talk about when I was younger because my childhood wasn't the best and it's depressing. I'm single right now but there might be a possibility of a future relationship with someone. I don't mean to worry about the future so much, but if we do start a relationship is it going to be inevitable to talk about my history? I usually end up breaking down when I do and I don't like it at all.
I've moved on from the bad things and I'm learning not to dwell on them. But there are things from my past that affect me still... like why I'm so tense and nervous around my father.
Is it really important to tell our sad stories?
If we get together or even become good friends will I end up having to tell him?
- Yes it's important to tell him/her eventually. They need to know.Vote A
- No, it's best to keep the past in the past. No matter how serious you get.Vote B
- That just depends, if they ask you should tell them, if they don't, then you don't have to say anything.Vote C
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I can totally relate. I went through a very tumultuous and abusive childhood. I was beaten, raped, drug user parents, had a lot of horrible things happen. But the way I look at it now is, I'm still here right? I made it. I'm a strong woman and I shouldn't be embarrassed because none of my mishaps back then were my fault. I should be proud that I could overcome the struggles I did.
Honesty is the foundation of relationships. Eventually, not early on, I mean like several months in or whenever you and your significant other get to that level of trust. Share what molded you into the strong, wise person you are.
My boyfriend knows my fears, my insecurities, why I am scared to see my father like you. You don't need to go into gruesome detail. if it bothers you, you should just respectfully say, you know, my childhood wasn't the best. I went through a lot of difficult things, I don't particularly like to look back on it. Put a positive spin on it, be optimistic about your future and confident in who you are and what you can accomplish. There's no way someone could view that mindset negatively.
It's not about where your from BUT where your GOING. Yes, you should eventually open up. Good luck to you :).3