Im desperate so please help!!
okay so I was datin this guy who was abusive, physically, emotionally, verbally. I have charges against him. he put his hands on me, I always had bruises all over me, he put me down all the time, callin me fat, stupid, sayin I'm a f*ck up & that's all I know how to do etc, he plays with my emotions all the time & he always talked to other girls while we were datin & always accused me of cheatin. we've been broken up for 3 months now. we never stopped havin contact. I act like it doesn't bother me but it does. I had to move 6 hrs away & come back home because of it. but when I don't message him first hell message me & well be talking & hell just be like 'go away'. well be fine talking then hell hang up or sign off & he keeps doin that to me. ill send him nice messages & hell just ignore them.. I don't understand it! if I'm not talking to him why does he message me or call me & do these thangs to me? I don't know what to do.
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Guys that are abusive like that have a tendency to see women as property. If you respond then his "property" is still his. He can't admit that your not his anymore so he will do anything to get you back. As much as it might hurt you you need to stop all communication with him. Don't respond. You will have to ignore him. Every-time you respond it's like your saying that you want him back and he gets the idea that being apart from him is just temporary. It might be tempting to tell him that it's "over" and that your not going to talk to him anymore but that could be just as bad a move. You have to treat the old relationship as an addiction and go "cold turkey." As long as he continues to get any kind of response from you then he will keep calling.1