OK, So I've been dating this guy for over 6 months (not long I know) and he just asked me to marry him. I am 17(be 18 in April) and he is 25. I said yes, but when I tell people how old he is, they say he is to old. We are very much in love. and age is just a number, right? it shouldn't matter, correct?
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Here's the thing...
You simply don't, and can't, understand HOW MUCH you will change over the next 5-7 years. It will be as much or more as you changed between 10 and 16, and try to remember what was important to you at 10, and how ridiculous and naive some of those things seem to you today.
It's completely understandable to FEEL the way you do. We all get it. The problem is that at your age, there's simply so much about life in the real world that you haven't learned yet, and it's very likely that you just don't know what you'll really need in a relationship, a real, adult relationship that will carry enormous responsibilities and stress.
So, what to do? As I said, we all understand how you feel. It's normal. But be smart about how you ACT on it. I recommend staying with the guy, but moving VERY slow. Have a LONG engagement, as in, 3-4 years, or if you're going to college, until you graduate.
Realistically, you probably won't feel the same about him by then, which is ALSO normal and expected. And if that's the case, you can move on without huge legal and social entanglements. And if you DO still feel the same, you can then get married.
If you rush, or be stupid and let yourself get pregnant, that's where you're going to have a problem. Just be smart, and maybe you can have everything that you want.1