So before I start no we are not "together" and I understand that.
So this girl like we went out for dinner a week ago after she asked me if I wanted to get dinner with her. The next time we hung out a group of us went downtown and I knew she was talking to another guy and he showed up at the bar, So I decided I don't play these games and was nice to her but ignored her, and the next day she was hitting me up big time.
So we went out for dinner and a movie tue night. it went well, not great but not bad. I left town the next day for a few days, the day after I left she asked me if I was going to be back Monday because she wanted to do something.
Now I just saw on FB that she had a dinner date with that other guy at the nicest/expensive place in town...
What is going on? Should I even bother? I like her but I don't want to be strung along like a idiot, I am fine with some competition, I'm confident I have more to offer and am better than him but to me this seems ridiculous, I take her out, she asks to hang out again, then two days later she goes out with the other guy.
what should I do?
a few days ago I asked her out for what would have been a 3rd date and she said yes, either that night or the next. then 2 hours later she told me she can't go on a date with me, and she's dating the other guy. but "thinks I'm really cool and would be sad if I didn't want to hang out any more"...
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First of all, great question. And I think you're handling this the right way. You realize that a couple of dates does not mean you're together. Good for you.
Now a couple of questions. You say your date went well but wasn't great. Did you, at any time kiss this girl? Have you had any physical contact at all? Because it's all well and good for you to go out on a date, but unless you're doing something to up the physical ante, you aren't really moving things forward. I'm not saying you need to have sex tomorrow, but you do need to be getting more physical and at LEAST kissing on the next date. So I'd say go out on another date, plan something interactive and fun (not dinner) and keep it inexpensive. FUN is the operative word here. Expensive dates are for girlfriends you've been with for awhile. Your date should be more about having fun, getting closer and somewhere in there--kissing her.
Also, in the meantime, don't stop meeting other girls, talking, flirting, getting numbers and going on dates with them if you can. As you pointed out, you're not in a relationship with this girl. If you're dating other girls you won't care as much if she's got other things going on too.0