It said..."last of the flirting for a couple days...i can't wait to be naked with you". It's a co worker and he told me they all had been just messing around and joking and that it was in reference to them making fun of her that she's going to be so drunk at the work Christmas party that she'll be taking her clothes off. I'm really upset because I think it's inappropriate talk even if it's a joke. I don't even know what my question is really...I told him if he ever says anything like that again I will leave. But it's hard to trust him. I know he didn't physically do anything but it still hurts. Should I be worried? Am I dumb for staying?
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Ugh. Sorry, hun, but I dated a guy for 2 years who was ALWAYS text-flirting other girls behind my back, and this just totally reminded me of the crap he used to say to them... and then the crap he would say to me to try to cover it up.
I know you can't possibly believe his lame explanation (it doesn't even make sense, seriously.) He may not have done anything physically, but that's a very, very small comfort. No one can tell you what you should do, but I will just say that losing trust in your significant other is a BIG deal and it takes a looong time to earn that back. You may be a more forgiving girl than I am, but when I found myself in your position I ended up suffering for months with the memory of my bf's totally sexual, flirtatious, inappropriate texts to other girls bouncing around in my mind nonstop.
And it says a lot about your boy that he is talking to another girl like that. So. Not. Okay. And he knows it isn't okay, even if he won't admit it. If you do decide to let this one go and give him another chance, just promise yourself that you won't tolerate this kind of poor behavior from him ever again. Second chances are fine, and everyone deserves one... but it's a slippery slope and no one would disagree with you for proceeding with caution. Take care.2