My boyfriend just accidentally sent me a text that was meant to go to another girl!

It said..."last of the flirting for a couple days...i can't wait to be naked with you". It's a co worker and he told me they all had been just messing around and joking and that it was in reference to them making fun of her that she's going to be so drunk at the work Christmas party that she'll be taking her clothes off. I'm really upset because I think it's inappropriate talk even if it's a joke. I don't even know what my question is really...I told him if he ever says anything like that again I will leave. But it's hard to trust him. I know he didn't physically do anything but it still hurts. Should I be worried? Am I dumb for staying?


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Most Helpful Girl

  • Ugh. Sorry, hun, but I dated a guy for 2 years who was ALWAYS text-flirting other girls behind my back, and this just totally reminded me of the crap he used to say to them... and then the crap he would say to me to try to cover it up.

    I know you can't possibly believe his lame explanation (it doesn't even make sense, seriously.) He may not have done anything physically, but that's a very, very small comfort. No one can tell you what you should do, but I will just say that losing trust in your significant other is a BIG deal and it takes a looong time to earn that back. You may be a more forgiving girl than I am, but when I found myself in your position I ended up suffering for months with the memory of my bf's totally sexual, flirtatious, inappropriate texts to other girls bouncing around in my mind nonstop.

    And it says a lot about your boy that he is talking to another girl like that. So. Not. Okay. And he knows it isn't okay, even if he won't admit it. If you do decide to let this one go and give him another chance, just promise yourself that you won't tolerate this kind of poor behavior from him ever again. Second chances are fine, and everyone deserves one... but it's a slippery slope and no one would disagree with you for proceeding with caution. Take care.

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What Guys Said 3

  • Not just inappropriate, it's bad. That's not flirting, it's almost dirty talking. If you guys are in a full committed RL, he shouldn't be even joking about getting naked with other girls. Explain to him that you don't like it, but explain it in such a way that there are no doubts to him about it.

    Good luck!

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  • What does your gut say? Go with your instinct on this one. Does he seem to be the type that would cheat? Does he feel that he is smart enough to get one by you? Joey Greco said that people who hire P.I.'s to catch their partner cheating already have their doubts. They just want the proof, and that is where he comes in.

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  • Yes, you'd be woefully naive for staying and trusting him. The guy is cheating or is about to cheat.

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What Girls Said 8

  • Your gut is saying that it's bad news. And it is. I joke around with guys a lot (like most girls), but (like most girls) I know that that is way to far. There is no reason for him to being texting any girl that, unless he's dating her. I think you need to confront him about this- but be sure to be true to how you feel because, just by reading this, I can tell you are upset (and you have every right to be) so don't let this go easily.

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  • He is one step closer to be a cheater soon honey.Sorry about that.Even tho they didn't do anything physically,still they were talking nasty things.It can be considered as cheating.Why would you talk something like that while you are in a serious relationship with someone? Confront him about this...

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  • If you are in a committed relationship it is wrong and out of line for him to flirt or dirty talk with other women. Especially behind your back. I'd go with gut feelings. This is a big red flag.

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  • That's not appropriate At All, even as a joke. Because even if joking he knows she's not just going to read that and be like "Ahh, he wasn't serious or flirting at all!" And on top of that, there was no "lol", no "jk", no nada. And it's still inappropriate language anyway.

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  • Ummm I don't know about that...sounds suspicious!

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  • Get out of there!

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  • Totally ridiculously cheating or about to cheat.. Cheating is cheating. If you are committed to someone you will not flirt or talk to another person like that! Be wary...

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  • Run!

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