This question Is somewhat related to my previous question.
I met this guy at a party and I went home with him.we fooled around a bit but didn't have sex cos I don't think its that appropriate . I found him kinda attractive and want to see him again and he asked me to catch up over lunch.I just ended a relationship of 1.5yr in November.he also ended his in Nov.his last relationship was 3 years but it was on and off according to him and other people I know. It's only been like 2 months from our last.
Should I wait until later? I don't know if I am rushing things but I m pretty over my ex.
I read articles and stuff said it should be at least six months from the last relationship..what do you think?should I take things really slow now?I mean really slow.
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Here is how I think of it. :)
There is no spefic timeline you should consider. Don't believe any rules because seriously the dating scene is all stochastic. I believe you should follow your gut and consider the following:
1- Do you think this new guy is a rebound or you truly like him? Ask yourself this question. In many cases, you just jump on to another guy soon as you breakup because you miss the feelings of being in love regardless of whether you like the new guy or not. This is not only unfair to this guy but also to you. So, do you really like him? What do you like in him? Write down a list of things you like about him and see if it makes any sense.
2- Do you really want to get into a serious relaionship now? This is about YOU. A lot of people do this mistake of following others' footsteps. "If people are getting into a relationship, so should I" kinda mindset. You should lead, not follow, at least lead your own life. :) So, ask yourself this question. You need to know that so you either choose to date casually or to get serious with someone. And he should know that too. Many girls look for a casual date after a breakup but the new guy is looking for a serious relationship. The guy will hurt alot.
So yeah, hope this helps. :)1