It feels like everyone thinks you're ugly or something (well for me it does). Would like to hear your opinion on this matter?
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Online dating is a numbers game. When I first started it seemed to me that it was more like a menu to me. Here were all of these girls that were interested in meeting guys, and here I am a nice looking guy that has a lot going for him, so I will get a lot of dates. I quickly realized this was not the case. This did not ruin my confidence level, it just made me look at the whole process differently.
The ratio of guys to girls on most dating sites, is very lopsided towards guys. As a result girls (even the less attractive ones) get inundated with a lot tons of emails. I have heard this can be exhausting for the girls. But also when so many different guys email the girl it gives girl the opportunity to be much more picky than they otherwise could be. Some things that I have found helpful are:
1. If a new girl signs up message her quickly, and try and beat the wave of emails from other guys
2. Canned messages get a bad rep, but are very useful. I sometimes got to the point where I had to write a different "clever" message to every girl I was interested in. It is almost impossible to to to write something that will be unique from every other guys email. Further this is a time consuming process, and I often let laziness stop me from emailing certain girls. Having a canned email that only requires you modify 10-20% for each girl, is easier, quicker and more effective. Email a lot of girls, to and test out different canned messages.
3. Don't email a girl and say, I am exactly what you are looking for. When you email I girl who's profile says "I want a guy that is X, Y, and Z" and you say "I am X, Y and Z" you come off needy. I have more success when I say "your profile interests me, let's see if we are compatible" than saying I am exactly what you are looking for.
4. On your profile make sure that you don't have any pictures with other girls (I learned this one the hard way).1