I've been talking to a single dad for a few weeks. He seems really nice, but I don't want to get too emotionally invested before I see if we meet eye to eye on priorities and values. He's a great dad and seems to be easygoing like me. He is still friends with his ex, mother of his son, and they have been separated for five years. I asked him recently why their relationship ended because I feel that marriage is forever unless a partner is unfaithful (and in this instance, it seems that's not the case). My reasoning behind asking so soon is - if their marriage failed because "they became more friends than lovers," would he want a divorce if we married and went through a phase where we felt more like friends? I think it's an important question, but haven't received a response from him and am afraid I might not hear from him again.
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I think that's a very serious question to ask after only a few weeks. You don't even know him well enough yet for him to be your boyfriend, much less your husband. It's also a private issue right now. I get that you don't want to waste your time if you don't have similar values, but you have to be patient or you'll scare off a great guy.
What if a guy wanted to make sure he married a girl with similar sex views and started pushing her to find out after only a few weeks. It's way too soon! In time he can learn those things, but he would be sabotaging a good potential relationship by breaking out the whips and chains in week 2 of knowing each other just to make sure he isn't "wasting his time".
Take your time and have fun. No need to get so preoccupied with how he would be as a husband just yet. You'll find out what he's about in time.0