Okay, so I'm tired of falling for the wrong guys and I'm giving POF a try. I need someone with the same goals as mine and this site will narrow that down more than I could.
My question is, what do you talk about in the messages? Suppose you find a person and you want to know them better? How do you tell the person that without sounding cheesy like "hey, I read your profile, I think you're cool and I want to get to know you"?
Should I say something about myself too?
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I found my boyfriend of over a year on POF. It works, but you have to put in a lot of hard work.
My messages usually included a short blurb about me, and then I started asking about stuff on their profile. If they listed that hiking is one of their interests, I would mention that I went on a hiking trip somewhere, or if I saw a picture of them at Disney world, I would mention something about that.
If they are talking about wanting to travel, ask them what places they might be interested in seeing. By asking about details on their profile, you are setting yourself apart from the crowd. It shows you read the profile and are genuinely interested. Most messages I got were just "Hai, how are u?". And then the guy would get upset when I didn't respond.
I took time to read profiles and craft decent messages (2-3 long paragraphs). People who are serious should be able to do the same. I find the one's that aren't serious about finding someone are sending messages with the least effort put in. Not trying to come across as a snob, but I found that when I spent time talking to those people, I just found that we had different goals for being on that site and I ended up wasting time.
Don't be afraid to message someone if you think they might not respond. Yes it takes time to create that message, but sometimes it pays off. I was scared to message my boyfriend because I thought he was too attractive and would not respond. I wrote the message anyway, and he responded back!
Over a year later and we are still together and are very happy.