I'm in college. I'm funny, smart, and above average in looks. My only big negative for physical looks is that I'm really skinny but it's because I have a high metabolism and cannot put on weight for anything. I have no problems talking to girls and I'm really confident about that. And I dress well, casual but good choices. I have gone on dates but I have such high standards that I lose interest unless they are really who I want to be with long term and those "perfect" girls for me all seem to have boyfriends. I just went on a date with this girl that has a good personality but I was not attracted physically...I don't know if that makes me shallow but I just couldn't see myself with her long term.
What do I have to do to get the girl for me? Lower my standards? I'm don't go to parties, so should I start to go just so I can find a girl there? Get drunk like everyone else and find someone? I mean I know I am attractive enough to get a girl from a party and go home with her, but my personality and standards won't let me do that. What should I do?
I was out with three girls last night(just friends) and one of them was seriously laughing at everything and thought I was just the best(she has a boyfriend though). Like she was laughing really hard at something I said and I jokingly said "am I just that awesome" and she said "yeah pretty much haha". That is what has me thinking...I know I should have a girlfriend because I see these random guys walking around with beautiful girls, but why don't I? I have a introverted personality so what can I do?
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This seems to be another case of an ugly/average guy who thinks his supposed 'bomb ass diggity' personality is supposed to pull 9's/10's and girls are just supposed to flock to him because he thinks he has everything a girl likes.
-I don't know what you look like and I don't wanna know what you look like(just to keep this unbiased), but you could very well be perceived as ugly to the females around you. In this case, you need a taste of reality and need to realize you're gonna have to lower your standards. Attractive girls aren't gonna lower theirs for you and you aren't entitled to them just because you think your personality is the hottest thing since sliced bread
-Yes, you should socialize more. You'd be surprised to find out that not all girls at parties are looking for hookups or sex. But, those aren't the girls you're interested in. You aren't interested in the average, in the background, social butterfly(yes, those girls tend to just float around at parties talking), you're interested in the hot ones who won't give you the time of day.
-You have to put forth more effort. Girl or guy, no one is just gonna flock to you. You have to try. Perhaps you need a better radar, like, not going for girls with bfs. That...just takes luck. So, you'll probably have to just gain some patience, continue socializing and soon you'll find a girl who's interested in you and is single.
That doesn't mean you have to go for ugly girls, it simply means not *expecting* what you yourself aren't.1
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