So here's my situation: I have been taking guitar lessons for 6 years and a couple months back my instructor put together this group. In this group I met a beautiful girl who, so far, I seem to have a lot in common with. Now usually by now I would have asked her out or at least for her phone number but there are certain road blocks in the way. 1) We practice at HER house. Seeing as we are both juniors in high school, she lives with her parents, which makes it really hard for me to ask her out because they're almost always around. Also her parents know me by name so would it be the respectful thing to ask for their "permission" to date their daughter? 2) I can never get her alone. Since there are 6-8 of us in the group it's almost impossible to get a private conversation in with her. And from what I understand, asking a girl out should be done in private to avoid pressuring her. 3) she's given me signs but could I be miss-reading? The ones that I've picked up on are while we practice I'll catch her looking at me (or she'll catch me) and she won't break eye contact until after a good 3-5 seconds. Another is that we've had many good conversations since we have a lot in common and it's not always me initiating them. Now this one I could be miss-reading but when I leave, after every practice, I say goodbye to the group as a whole but it almost never fails that she says goodbye after everyone and more often than not will give me a hug. 4) we don't go to the same school. If we did, I'm almost sure we'd have gone out at least once by now.
To sum it up: Should I ask her parents for their permission to date their daughter since I know them and they know me by name? What are some ways that I could get her alone? Would it be a bad decision to ask for her number in front of the rest of the group? Am I reading her right? Guys, what would you do in this situation? Ladies, am I doing alright so far or would you suggest a different approach?
Well that's my problem. Hopefully you guys/gals can help me out of it.
Most Helpful Girl
First off, you sound really mature for an under-16 years old guy. :D
Anyway, seeing where you are from, I'm not sure if its a custom over there to ask a girl's parents their permission to bring out their daughter.
if it isn't, then no you don't have to. During one of your conversations, just casually ask her if she would like to hang out after the session etc. And if she says yes, great! you can ask her for her number when you guys are out. If she isn't free, ask to exchange numbers so you can plan hang-outs someday. make it all casual and cool.
i don't usually like to do it the Facebook way because I prefer f2f interaction, more personal and fun.
since you can't seem to get her alone, you could slip her a note asking if she would like to hang out after the session. gl :)0
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