Girl rejects a kiss, now what?
I feel awkward. We had a great first date and I felt like I should give it a try. We hugged and I tried for the kiss but she said "no not yet". I text her afterward saying I had fun and whatever and that we should go out again if she wants and she responded and said she had a great time also and will see what her schedule looks like next week. I said I'd call her sometime to see and she said that sounds good.
But what am I supposed to think? Isn't no kiss = no interest? And how am I supposed to get my first kiss then? I don't want to try too soon and get rejected again but I don't want to wait forever just for a first kiss to know I am doing things right...how long should I wait to try again?
Have any girls here said no to a kiss the first time but actually gone though and gotten in a relationship with that same guy?
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Man, you're in a deep sh*t!
This seems like a classic - the date goes perfect but no kiss.
Some women tend to date even those men they ain't attracted to because for them it's more fun than just sitting at home alone, and especially - if the guy covers the expenses.
If she would like you then there would be no reason at all why she wouldn't kiss you.
Name one reason why a woman who is attracted to you would not even kiss you after a great first date. I really wanna hear something.
Yes - there is an unwritten rule "no sex on a first date" as it may compromise their female dignity, but it definitely does not apply about kissing. It's ridiculous!
You know what you have to do? Find another chick.
Forget about this one and don't even consider asking her out again - because then you would compromise your male dignity!
Why should you do that? If you can find a girl who's much better?
She sorted her priorities and you're not on the top of them so you must not put her on the top of your priority list.
If she again may ask you out sometime - then consider it and maybe accept, but just maybe, and in such case don't spend a penny for her.
What Girls Said 7
From just reading some of your responses to the other answers you seem to eager to get the kiss. Relax =) it'll happen k? You obviously didn't run her away if she is willing to check her schedule to see you again. She likes you, probably just wants to know who she is actually kissing (the person on the inside) before she just does it. I know you're stuck in the position of now wondering when to try again but maybe just try date 3 to be safe.
WIth this girl, I suggest you ask to kiss her before you do it again. Just saying, "May I kiss you?", "Can I kiss you?" is the best way to approach it the second time around.
Every girl is different, and they do different things with different guys based on the way they feel. Don't take it to heart; she probably just wasn't ready for a kiss. It doesn't mean she is not interested.
Act like nothing happened and go out with her again. She probably just wants to get to know you better and see if she's interested in you that way. I'd wait maybe through one more date and see how it goes and then maybe on the third date - but only if it seems like she really likes you.
I wouldn't take that as a no interest if she's giving you an indication that she wants to see you again.
Its nothing personal, girls just have rules, ever heard of the 5 date rule? & you have to remember it was the 1st date, she's just getting to know you and probably doesn't want to give you the wrong idea (a kiss on date 1, sex on date 2) In the future when you take her out let her initiate , that way she doesn't feel uncomfortable
Dude, it's simple. You don't kiss on the first date. Makes you seem easy. Go again for the kiss on the secoound or third. Or you can wait for her to give you the okay. Don't even go for a kiss the next time around,just hug her and go. If she has a "what the heck" kinda look on her face then from there kiss her.
What Guys Said 6
Was it a kiss on the lips or cheek?
If it was a cheek - nothing wrong with that at all
If it was on lips - still not bad but a prude might think otherwise...
I can't believe these twits on here saying "I don't kiss on the 1st date"... GROW UP
The girls have it wrong on this one man... if she rejects kiss - DUMP HER! DUMP HER! No question.
...and you NEVER ask for a kiss - you just do it! Talk about killing the romance :P
Sounds to me like she's not interested but doesn't have the balls to tell you, common problem with women sorry dude.
Just go to a gay bar and wave your c.o.c.k around you will have success, you can skip the names and go all the way, sounds like its all for you!