She broke up with me (ended our 3 month up and down relationship) because at the time she told me she needed time, wasnt over an ex, wasnt feeling it the way she knew I was feeling about her.
i was afraid I had been to clingy, or to openly enamoured. but, looking back I was caring and affectionate, but I never overwhelmed her with my feelings...i dealt with things ok.
she is dating this other guy, and I don't think that she really likes him...she was being honest about not being over an ex..but she did end things with me and start dating someone else pretty fast...
the question, is it likely that she will want me back? assuming, as I do, that there was something strong there at one point and that that didn't change because of who I am but because of the timing and circumstances.
i would rather not want her back, its not worth it to be with someone who cast me aside so easily...but she is worth it, and we could be pretty great.
so, my plan is to stop inititating our friendship..i don't want to ignore her, and I do want to see her...but I'm not going to contact her, she can contact me.
what do I do, or say...how do I act...what do I think...
should I just get over it and maybe she will change her mind?
what would you be looking for in a guy you once dated, who you are attracted to?
should I date other girls? (I want her, but I don't think I should wait around for her)
should I cut her off completely? make her realize what not having me in her life is like? (maybe its an improvement lol, but I hope not)
i know that I should just move on...and I will, but I would like to know that what I'm doing, and thinking is for a reason... I would like to have a plan, even if it produces no results...just something to cling to when I feel bad about the situation...most of the time I'm fine with it, but I can get pretty down about it if I let myself
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I feel your pain man. I just went through this pretty much exact same situation. She started dating the new guy a week after our break up and then told me 2 weeks later that she thinks she is in love with him after only 3 weeks of even knowing him. He had just gotten out of a 2 year relationship so I'm sure they are both just rebounding, but none of that really should matter anymore. She chose him, not you. You have to realize that even though she might be an amazing and beautiful person, she isn't going to be that person with you. It's been 2 months since my break up and I still feel like I want to be with my ex, but I have moved on and can now see that there are many other girls out there that are better than her and that will actually truly want to be with me and not choose someone else over me. If she contacts you just act like you have better things to do, like hang out with your family and friends. Don't invest a lot into the friendship and she will eventually see that you don't need her around anymore which will trigger something in her mind that tells her she should try to be in your life because she doesn't want to lose you. The harder she tries the more she will realize that she is trying so hard because she actually wants to be with you. It's all about playing hard to get. Just have low expectations as to not disappoint yourself and please go out and try to find better girls than her.0