my boyfriend and I live together and are in a serious relationship...but I found some online profiles on dating sites where he was talking to all these females and asking for their numbers. when confronting him of course he got angry says I am being insecure etc, but I caught him out there and he went and deleted them all, but the question is why would he do that? he says he just looking for friends, yet when you are in a relationship you shouldnt be trying to invite friends of the opposite sex into your lives, as if he still looking out there wanting to know them for what? he can't explain to me why he did this, yet I can't forgive him and move on from it unless I understand his reasons behind it. he says he loves me and wants to be with me, but right now he just isn't pleading his case, he has nothing to say when he should be doing everything he can to make me feel secure to make me believe this won't happen again...but he just can't seem to tell me any reason to my face. what would have happened if I didn't catch this? would have gone further like meeting these chics and seeing them? he says he hasn't cheated on me in that aspect...but he opened the door for trouble, voilated my trust ...i am not sure if can work thru this with him when he can't even justify his reasons.
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How is your relationship with him? Are you two getting along well? The thing is, I would have a hard time believing him myself. It would seem he is certainly starting to stray if he hasn't already. I would think very hard about this seeing as it is a lot harder to build trust once it has been broken. Couples therapy may help. I wouldn't let him get away with the whole jealous bit at all. His comment about jealousy is just his way of making you feel bad (it's manipulation). To me cheating starts with the intent.0
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