I am doing the online dating thing and have fortunately been able to meet and date 4 men in the last couple of weeks from this service. I have just gone on one date with each thus far and am not sure if I should tell them about each other. Truthfully, I have never been this lucky with finding great guys and I plan to continue dating all of them until I find something wrong with them or one of them sweeps me off of my feet. I figure that they are meeting other women too, but I would like to know if or when I should bring this up in conversation on our next dates. Until now, I have never dated more than one guy at a time because I never dated through a service like this before and so in a way I kind of feel "sneaky" dating so many at one time.
Should I bring this to their attention? If so, when? Will they be offended?
Also, for the guys, if I kissed more than one guy while dating and I end up in a relationship with one, will he be offended that I experimented with other guys while I was with him (only kissing)?
BTW, I don't kiss on first dates...
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So your liking the whole idea of online dating hey? Well I have some advice for you, most of which I think you like and most of which I don't think the guys will =)
So you ask is it ok for you to date heaps of guys at the same time? I think that provided that you haven't told any of them that you want to date them exclusively then its completely fine! Essentially its like being single, because no one has asked for your commitment yet.
Not only does this situation work really well in your favor. It means that you will appear more attractive to guys that are in your normal life as well. The thing about when we start dating a lot, we tend to get into the groove. Going on more dates and being adored by all these diff men, makes it so much more easier to smile at a cute guy that walks past you, because your self confidence is much higher. Dating lots of guys at the same time, I give it the thumbs up. Works well for the guy as well, because he doesn't feel like there is any pressure on him from you to get him into a committed relationship. The more space you give him the more than he will want to be with you neways =)
You want to know if you should tell the other guys? Well I would say tell them when you need to tell them. So once you start going on a couple of dates you will get a feel for the ones that you like better. If after the third date that you have found that you are not interested in a particular guy and you don't want to date him anymore, then simply be upfront with him and tell him that you are no longer available for dates anymore. But you only say that, when you have to make a decision. If all is going well, then you don't have to create any unnecessary drama. Its perfectly fine for you to date multiple people at a time, in fact most of all dating books suggest this anyways.
Course some of the guys that like you more than you like them might feel a little rejected, but they will appreciate you being a little more assertive and upfront with them, rather than leading them on. Dating is like going for that great job. Just because you had a really great interview with one company, doesn't mean that you don't accept another interview from another .. because you haven't gotten the job yet!!! So at then end of the day you giving yourself the widest possibility of finding someone who is a better match for you.
Good on you =) N all the best with the whole dating thing
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