I have a guy friend who really confuses me, and makes me wonder how full of shit he is. He complains about being single, yet he talks about liking the attention he gets from talking to a bunch of different girls. He claims he is the "best boyfriend in the world" when he is in a relationship, yet he tells me he is single because he's a jerk and he "does what he wants." He also makes it seem like he's doing a bunch of girls, his reason being because he's single, but I highly doubt it seeing as how I'm talking to him all the damn time. What are the chances that he's full of it?
When I first met him he seemed really sweet... but when I hear him talk about himself it's like he doesn't know what he wants or can't make up his mind. He talks himself into being this big badass asshole, yet I never sensed that when I first met him.
A friend once told me that men mean exactly the opposite of what they say. Is this true? What's their deal?
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He is a good person, he is just struggling and trying not to look like a loser in front of you. He has deficiencies in his manhood that need to be dealt with. He doesn't feel his own worth so he is unsure of himself around women, so he never gets a date. He is unsure of who he is and as a result no one will trust him or follow him. He needs to develop integrity and strength, goals and ambitions. He will profit a lot by thinking about meeting the needs of the women he wants to be with, not his own needs.
These things coupled with some time spent actually talking to women and getting to know them, as well as developing some social graces and quality friends will alleviate about 90% of his issues.
No one is perfect but straightforward guidance is difficult to come by as a man and perhaps even more difficult to follow. Men are natural leaders and don't want to follow advice, they want to give it.0