There's this girl at school that I met this semester, and we're quite friendly. I asked her out for coffee (though I didn't use any words explicitly saying that I had a date in mind.). She agreed, and we're meeting tonight. However, I'm not sure if she realizes that I had a date in mind and that I'm possibly interested in being more than friends with her. How can I tell whether she she knows it's a date as opposed to a strictly platonic thing and if she doesn't realize, how should I make it clear to her that it's a date?
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Here's the best advice (I've been in this situation before):
If you start worrying about whether she knows it's a date, you're going to start worrying, and that is counter-productive. So no matter what you do, FORGET that you ever posted this question, and just go have a good time with her, with zero expectations. If you are too obviously interested in a girl, and the interest isn't reciprocated, you are dead in the water -- that is how the game works.
However, if you show lack of interest, that won't cause her not to be interested in you -- it could have the opposite effect. So don't worry about the bad things that might happen if you don't make it clear that "it's a date;" the truth is that there are no negative consequences associated with this possibility. Just relax, and try to have fun (and make sure she has fun, or as much fun as possible on a stupid little coffee date).
So just go have coffee with her, and try to be confident and fun without being weird, and don't insist on communicating that "it's a date," maybe instead come prepared with some kind of follow-up, like inviting her to a party that no one else has invited her to.
If the "coffee date" goes well -- in other words, you relax around each other and things don't get weird -- then she will probably accept the follow-up invitation, and if she goes on a coffee date with you AND goes to a party that only you invited her to, then she MUST begin realizing that you're into her, except you'll have been a little more subtle about it, which is a good thing.9