so I dated this guy, who happens to work with me at the same job. bad idea, I know. but hear me out...so we dated a couple of dates and of course I like him, he seemed to have reasonable excuses for missing 2 dates. he didn't seem to show consideration telling me only 30 minutes ahead that he couldn't make it due to these excuses. he happens to be a manager at work also but then finally I confronted him diplomatically and he said he had wanted to cut things off. it was OK for him to touch me sexually after these couple of dates, cancel dates and then cut it off. of course I'm quite upset and he's been looking away from me at work and checking other girls in front of me. I feel uncomfortable at work and because I still have feelings for this guy, my decision making is horrible at the moment.
my main concern is myown emotional health at t his job...thanks...yes of course it's unfair.
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This is indeed a complicated situation. The guy is allowed to change his mind and lose romantic interest in you, and it is natural that the interaction between you two would become awkward as a result. However, since you do work together, there needs to be a mature way of handling the situation.
As difficult as it is when you have feelings for someone, you need to accept that he is entitled to not be interested in you any more, and it is natural that he'll develop interest in others. With that in mind, you might want to discuss with him ways in which you can continue working together despite the history. Only if that doesn't work, and you think his behavior toward you is unfair, would I go to HR and seek their help.0