Well, so here's the story. I was dating a guy for a little while. Turns out he was hiding some things from me including: smoking weed, moving away and not telling me, and him trying to get me pregnant. We had an incredibly nasty breakup, but we later settled our differences in a good way. He recently contacted me again telling me that he loves me and still cares about me and wants to get back together. I'm tempted to as well, but I'm just not sure. My friends and family all think he's bad news, and that I can do so much better. Truth be told though, I'm still in love with him. He has said that he has changed and is trying to make something of his life. I just don't know what to believe.
Then there's this other guy that I met. I don't know a whole lot about him because I met him online. He's nice, funny, cute, and very successful. He works about 70 hours a week, is older and is looking for a serious relationship. As much as I want to give him a chance, I just feel like he's maybe lying, and it's not who he really is. He just seems way too good to be true. I want to give him a chance, but I am still in love with my ex. Plus, I am scared what my ex could do if he found out I was seeing another guy. He goes to the same school as me, and has threatened me in the past. I'm not sure what to do.
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First of all, if you aren't over your ex, you shouldn't be considering any other guys either. It isn't healthy for you, and isn't fair to them.
Second, you are a fool to even consider going back to a guy who acts like your ex. Threatening you? Trying to get you pregnant without your consent? What? This guy is nothing but trouble, and is just telling you what you want to hear right now.
I don't know where your head is at, but you're a mess right now, and I really recommend you get some counselling and figure out what you really want and need, and try to have a healthy relationship instead of these train-wrecks that you are attracted to. You scare me a little right now. You deserve much better, but clearly, you don't believe that.2