Should I sit at the corner of the bar, by the wall, in chair at a high top table? Where do you men look first?
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Quester has some good advice. One key point though. Make yourself appear approachable. By this I mean make sure that if you are with other women they are not giving off a different vibe. (like they are not interested in meeting guys) Other interested single women are your best bar buddies.
If a guy is comfortable with approaching women the first thing he usually does is try to single out a girl from the rest of her friends so you can talk. If it looks too difficult (you are surrounded by women with their back to him) he probably won't try. It looks like a hoard of bodyguards. This is especially daunting to guys that aren't good at approaching women. I'd recommend going with two women, if at all. That way the other two have someone to talk to when your guy approaches. Whereas one friend will be a third wheel. Don't sit or stand in a huddle!
Sit or stand at the bar or near it, in the middle. Interested men will look anywhere but its the most obvious. Corners and walls are for people who want to be left alone or lack confidence. Tables say "I'm with my friends over here, leave us alone" or "I'm waiting for someone." Try to have an open space next to you if you are at the bar so guys can come up and order drinks. (next to you) Chat them up. Its completely ok to ask a guy to buy you a drink if he doesn't ask and if you feel up to it. Above all, look like you're having fun.
Also, if you do go alone, pick a decent bar and tell someone your plans and that you will call them later to let them know you are ok. (There are creeps out there...)
This also begs the question, are you sure a bar is the best place to meet a "good" guy anyway? You can try a yoga class, or a gym, or a market, etc. Its harder but the quality people are in quality places, so to speak. Good luck, hope it helps.1