I got into an argument with my boyfriend over him texting during dinner. We hadn’t seen each other in a few days and we finally got together to spend sometime over dinner. The whole time he was texting. I told him NICELY “babe can you put your phone away your being rude.” He shrugged his shoulder and finished his text and put the phone away. He didn’t even talk to me he looked at the menu and grabbed the phone again. He did this 2 more times. I finally got irritated and I took the phone from him and I told him STOP. He looked at me and said “wtf is your problem? I always text you never cared before?” I said not during dinner your rude and I haven't seen you in days and all you want to do is text?
So we had dinner not really talking, I gave the phone back and we went home. There he wasn’t talking. I asked him what was wrong and he said nothing now you want to be nice at the restaurant your being a bitch and now you want to be nice and talk? I asked him if he wanted to be alone he said leave if you want I don’t f***in care. So I left but not before calling him an a**hole and telling him to f off. I feel bad I feel like I let my immature anger get the best of me. But I don’t think I did anything out of line, did i?
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I have to agree that what he did was out of line. But the way you reacted could have potentially made the situation worse with the way you were being openly confrontational about it. IF clear, concise verbal communication doesn't cut it, then you two shouldn't be together and he shouldn't be with anyone until he grasps that concept.
Never, ever, ever be the one to cause the situation to escalate to a higher level of confrontation. By ripping the phone from his hands you came dangerously close to escalating it to a physical confrontation and that is something I cannot condone. Voice your concerns and if that doesn't cut it, simply walk away. That's what I do.
That being said, I think it should be known that couples tend to get this way when they've been dating for a long time. Things like dating etiquette, how to communicate, and just plain how to treat each other change over the course of your time together as a couple and the "formalities" involved, along with the etiquette/manners that result from them, tend to erode away.3