But also what you call "telling him NICELY" is actually belittling and talking to him like a child. No adult will ever respond well to that kind of treatment. If a girl talked to me like that on a date I'd for sure wouldn't be seeing her again after that.
It seems like you're both assuming mother and son roles and not mature adult partner roles... That's a very bad issue and I hope you'll both be able to recognize that a try to work past it.
Wow he should not be using that language with you. Either way, I don't think you were out of line. You gave him the warning, he ignored it. I do this with my FRIENDS all the time, never mind significant others. Texting at the table is just downright rude. You can wait until the meal is over.
I do this with everyone I go out with. NO TEXTING! Hubby knows better and so do I. An occasional text is OK but if we're spending time together it is rude. I will agree that you let anger and hurt get the best of you but he was wrong. There's something missing here. Maybe he's stressed or something. Call to make amends keeping in mind that he was in the wrong just call to check on him and offer to listen if something is bothering him.
I don't think so, just because that's kinda like what someone's mother or teacher does when they're acting out of line. It just seems inappropriate in a relationship and no offense, but a little b*tchy because it sets the tone for an awkward somewhat hostile, confrontational situation. Especially with you two being in a public place where others may have seen. That could have really embarassed him! He's not a child and his girlfriend just snatched his phone away from him like that...but at the
same time, he sounds like a real ass for being so selfish and blantantly texting like that at dinner after you said it bothered you. Hmmm that situation would be tough to handle in public.
Don't get me wrong, I don't blame you for getting irritated and I think it's good you're assertive. I just don't think that was the best way to handle that situation. But yeah, I think it was out of line to snatch his phone away from him like that like he's a child. Even though you were frustrated, you gotta look at things from his perspective; you seriously don't think that action, in public, would make him feel uneasy?
That's what I'm wondering? Like are we on a break? or is it over? I'm having his baby soon so I know he won't just walk away from the baby...but then again he just might. I don't know I'm feeling pretty bummed but trying to snap out of it :)
:O! there's a child involved with this?what the hell! you need to have a serious talk with him. he needs to grow the hell up. I can't believe he's a father to be and he's acting like that!
Yes I'm pregnant...which make this all more confusing. We have doing great he has been so happy about the pregnancy for him to just say ill see you around and not bother even trying to text me back or show any type of remorse. Its hard.
i don't think that was out of line. you asked him nicely and he should have been focusing on you! dnt let anyone make you feel guilty esp not him. he owes you an apology..he's responsible for the situation escalating because he continued to do something persistently that he knew you didn't like. sorry, but he was acting like an a**hole nd you called him out on it. no shame ;)
yes texting during dinner is rude, but if you didn't cared in the past, I think that you should have waited until the end of the night to have a talk and to set up the new rule of not texting during dinner. The way you approached the situation in my eyes is wrong specially because you started an argument in public and due to this the whole night was a disaster. If you would of control your emotions and waited, the night would have been better.
Well, yes it was inconsiderate of him to sit there and text, but you were decidedly out of line. You can't just take away his phone and tell him to stop being rude like he's your kid. As apposed to treating him as an equal and asking him to stop and maybe just walking away if he continued you tried to control him and force him to stop. By the sounds of his reaction this isn't the first time...
He is upset because he wanted alone time with both of you. He just wanted to cherish every second as both of you guys haven't seen each other for a few days. It may come across as 'not participating' in his eyes.
I honestly don't see anything wrong with it, but each guy is different.
Um... what? In what way does ignoring her and texting through the entire date translate into wanting alone time with her? This makes no sense whatsoever.
I get why you were pissed , and I also feel like you kinda don't like what you did .
Sometimes we just make big deals out of little stuff but are feeling mad about something different entirely , like we direct our frustration into stuff like this.
Yes he was rude, but instead of taking the phone from him I would've just walked away. Then when he crawls up to you asking what's wrong you can tell him to stop texting or he eats alone and pays for two.
Okay let me explain. After I told him it was rude he didn't put it away. he pulled it out again after I had already told him. Then I got up and went to the restroom irritated hoping he would get the hint I came back and he was still on the damn phone. :(
I tried apologizing after I posted the question and got some feed back. That was in the morning. He didn't call or reply to my apology until 11pm, last night all he said was "love you" I called him and he was short with words so I got off the phone he said ill just see you around. wth? I'm super sad that I know there's an underlying reason or person as to why he doesn't even want to see me anymore or talk to me.
He was out of line. You don't text on a date. I don't let my boyfriend text when we're together ha ha maybe that's a bit much but really. You had every right to be angry.
I don't see how hard that concept is to grasp. I normally don't mind but becasue he doesn't do it when we are spending time together but last night it made me so upset!
Well.. it's good you said something. My girlfriend when we first started dating would text all day long too and I finally told her how it bothered me and she stopped. Sometimes people don't know what's important to the other person so.. you have to do what you did which was to tell them directly.
So good job, I'm sure now that he knows, he'll try to do less of it.
I just re-read your question, Well... taking his phone away a bit dramatic.. I'd be pissed to since I'm now being treated like a kid. If you asked him and he didn't see the big deal.. I'd try a little more to let him know why it bothers you... rather than snatch his phone and putting him in time out. No guy wants that.
Well after someone telling you at least 4 times. ( ieven went to the bathroom hoping he would he get the hint) I thought I would be more literal with my approach. I can see how it would be treating a MAN as a CHILD but then he should behave as a MAN.
He's the father of my baby on the way. All of this is making me even more emotional. If I wASnt pregnant I would know what to do. But with the baby in the mix it makes it hard. But I know I'm not going to reach out to him. I've said my peace.
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Yes he's being rude and immature.
But also what you call "telling him NICELY" is actually belittling and talking to him like a child. No adult will ever respond well to that kind of treatment. If a girl talked to me like that on a date I'd for sure wouldn't be seeing her again after that.
It seems like you're both assuming mother and son roles and not mature adult partner roles... That's a very bad issue and I hope you'll both be able to recognize that a try to work past it.
Wow he should not be using that language with you. Either way, I don't think you were out of line. You gave him the warning, he ignored it. I do this with my FRIENDS all the time, never mind significant others. Texting at the table is just downright rude. You can wait until the meal is over.
I do this with everyone I go out with. NO TEXTING! Hubby knows better and so do I. An occasional text is OK but if we're spending time together it is rude. I will agree that you let anger and hurt get the best of you but he was wrong. There's something missing here. Maybe he's stressed or something. Call to make amends keeping in mind that he was in the wrong just call to check on him and offer to listen if something is bothering him.
Texting during dinner is rude.
Taking his phone was a little extreme, but he was rude as hell for texting even after you let him know it bothers you
Phone snatching. Extreme. Yes. But after telling your boyfriend at least 4 x's wouldn't you have done the same?
I don't think so, just because that's kinda like what someone's mother or teacher does when they're acting out of line. It just seems inappropriate in a relationship and no offense, but a little b*tchy because it sets the tone for an awkward somewhat hostile, confrontational situation. Especially with you two being in a public place where others may have seen. That could have really embarassed him! He's not a child and his girlfriend just snatched his phone away from him like that...but at the
same time, he sounds like a real ass for being so selfish and blantantly texting like that at dinner after you said it bothered you. Hmmm that situation would be tough to handle in public.
Don't get me wrong, I don't blame you for getting irritated and I think it's good you're assertive. I just don't think that was the best way to handle that situation. But yeah, I think it was out of line to snatch his phone away from him like that like he's a child. Even though you were frustrated, you gotta look at things from his perspective; you seriously don't think that action, in public, would make him feel uneasy?
I can see why he called me a bitch. I guess I was just fed up and other things just bottled up ya kno.
so did he technically break up with you or what? or is he just being an ass?
That's what I'm wondering? Like are we on a break? or is it over? I'm having his baby soon so I know he won't just walk away from the baby...but then again he just might. I don't know I'm feeling pretty bummed but trying to snap out of it :)
:O! there's a child involved with this?what the hell! you need to have a serious talk with him. he needs to grow the hell up. I can't believe he's a father to be and he's acting like that!
Yes I'm pregnant...which make this all more confusing. We have doing great he has been so happy about the pregnancy for him to just say ill see you around and not bother even trying to text me back or show any type of remorse. Its hard.
i don't think that was out of line. you asked him nicely and he should have been focusing on you! dnt let anyone make you feel guilty esp not him. he owes you an apology..he's responsible for the situation escalating because he continued to do something persistently that he knew you didn't like. sorry, but he was acting like an a**hole nd you called him out on it. no shame ;)
yes texting during dinner is rude, but if you didn't cared in the past, I think that you should have waited until the end of the night to have a talk and to set up the new rule of not texting during dinner. The way you approached the situation in my eyes is wrong specially because you started an argument in public and due to this the whole night was a disaster. If you would of control your emotions and waited, the night would have been better.
Well, yes it was inconsiderate of him to sit there and text, but you were decidedly out of line. You can't just take away his phone and tell him to stop being rude like he's your kid. As apposed to treating him as an equal and asking him to stop and maybe just walking away if he continued you tried to control him and force him to stop. By the sounds of his reaction this isn't the first time...
not out of line at all I do the same at home I won't text duriong dinner unless its extremely urgent
its not like the world will end if he doesn't reply
Texting during dinner especially if you don't see the person often is really rude. However maybe you could have handled it in a more mature way.
I agree and I take responsibility for the way I reacted.
He is upset because he wanted alone time with both of you. He just wanted to cherish every second as both of you guys haven't seen each other for a few days. It may come across as 'not participating' in his eyes.
I honestly don't see anything wrong with it, but each guy is different.
Um... what? In what way does ignoring her and texting through the entire date translate into wanting alone time with her? This makes no sense whatsoever.
I get why you were pissed , and I also feel like you kinda don't like what you did .
Sometimes we just make big deals out of little stuff but are feeling mad about something different entirely , like we direct our frustration into stuff like this.
See if that's it .
Yes he was rude, but instead of taking the phone from him I would've just walked away. Then when he crawls up to you asking what's wrong you can tell him to stop texting or he eats alone and pays for two.
Okay let me explain. After I told him it was rude he didn't put it away. he pulled it out again after I had already told him. Then I got up and went to the restroom irritated hoping he would get the hint I came back and he was still on the damn phone. :(
Don't go to the restroom next time, just leave.
Texting during a date is idiotic. I mean seriously, I hate texting. People are too addicted to it.
Your anger (or at least presentation of it) was probably a tad high. But you are 100% justified in becoming upset over him texting on a dinner date.
He instigated, you escalated. You are both at fault.
Now kiss and make up.
I tried apologizing after I posted the question and got some feed back. That was in the morning. He didn't call or reply to my apology until 11pm, last night all he said was "love you" I called him and he was short with words so I got off the phone he said ill just see you around. wth? I'm super sad that I know there's an underlying reason or person as to why he doesn't even want to see me anymore or talk to me.
He was out of line. You don't text on a date. I don't let my boyfriend text when we're together ha ha maybe that's a bit much but really. You had every right to be angry.
I agree, I understand if it's school / work or something of that nature related but if it's something that can wait... I'd ask him/her to stop too.
I don't see how hard that concept is to grasp. I normally don't mind but becasue he doesn't do it when we are spending time together but last night it made me so upset!
Well.. it's good you said something. My girlfriend when we first started dating would text all day long too and I finally told her how it bothered me and she stopped. Sometimes people don't know what's important to the other person so.. you have to do what you did which was to tell them directly.
So good job, I'm sure now that he knows, he'll try to do less of it.
Geez I hope so. he just blamed me being a bitch on my pregnancy hormones. He said that ill get over it.
I just re-read your question, Well... taking his phone away a bit dramatic.. I'd be pissed to since I'm now being treated like a kid. If you asked him and he didn't see the big deal.. I'd try a little more to let him know why it bothers you... rather than snatch his phone and putting him in time out. No guy wants that.
Well after someone telling you at least 4 times. ( ieven went to the bathroom hoping he would he get the hint) I thought I would be more literal with my approach. I can see how it would be treating a MAN as a CHILD but then he should behave as a MAN.
Is this the father of your child? or just your boyfriend?
He's the father of my baby on the way. All of this is making me even more emotional. If I wASnt pregnant I would know what to do. But with the baby in the mix it makes it hard. But I know I'm not going to reach out to him. I've said my peace.
That is a totally sh*tty situation, I feel for you :(
I don't think it's your fault it's more so his IMO because you'd shouldn't have to ask him to putti away in the first place
Absolutely no texting during dinner. Rude, rude, rude.