I am a 16year old junior in high school and she is 18 year old senior
I started to go out with her on December 22 and she is a nice girl I asked her out by the way
I asked her out because she was diffrent and nice and love to draw even if here work isn't that great I loved that she would share them with me I confessed to her in a letter that I wanted to date
I met her parents and her brother and little sister
At first things were alright but I am just starting to get irritaed by a few things she does
she is obsessed with things of pop culture nature especially the band the monkees
she literly won't eat veggitables and has a poor diet
She can barely excercize due to her asthma and shs also ginger so she can't stay in the sun
the way she laughs constantly changes
she is overly emotional at certain times like if she is yelled at she will pout and cry
Whereas if someone she knew died she didt shed a tear
Btw that actually happened
When she is upset angry she irritates me because she try's imitating the people who made her upset and sounds like the people from Charlie brown
I know she wanted to date a supposed musical composer who can only play 3 dam chords on a guitar
I do believe she still does
she says she only had eyes for me
She kisses me everyday
She talks to me until she fells asleep
she cried before in my arms of Valentine's day stating she never had a valintine
She is a cute nice girl
Au have been somewhat intimate with her but we are both never had sex and I do not intend on having it because I don't think I love her prom is coming up and I intend on going with her and will not break it off before that because that extremely rude edpecially when she has a dress I feel depressed being with her and happy at other times
I have dated a few other girls and I always felt elated and joyful to see them like a few when sunlight hits your bare skin and feel ever so warm in the past . I said I love you to ast girlfriends like a guy should
I tend to not throw around that word and I want to say to her in the past but I feel depressed about it so therefore I believe it is not love
What does love feel like? What should I do? if I were to break up how do I deal with losing a friend? How can I say goodbye to someone I care about? How do I break up ? Am I a fool for wanting to sense I don't feel love?
Am I a bad person?
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Love is something everyone explains differently.
For me, love doesn't mean always wanting to be around the person. It means wanting to share a healthy amount of time with the object of your affection. It doesn't mean that you're never hurt or upset. It means that, even though something bothered you, it was something you could work through together and you were willing to stay to see that done. Love is a confusing feeling, a difficult feeling. It isn't always wonderful, sometimes it's very difficult, but love is what motivates you to keep trying for the sake of all the times it does feel magical, in the past and in the future.
I think, right now, you should consider the pros and cons of being with this girl. Do the negatives outnumber the positives? If they do, do you also feel that the bad outweighs the good?
You may be able to reach friendship again later - it isn't easy, and it doesn't always happen, but it is possible. If that doesn't work out, consider the fact that she'll likely still act very much the same as a friend. Things that she does that irritate you won't disappear once you've broken off the relationship. Is that the kind of friend you want and are you willing to look past it for a friendship rather than a relationship?
It's difficult to say goodbye, but knowing that you made the best decision you could with everyone's feelings considered makes it a little bit easier, and the ache will fade after time.
If you do intend to break up with her after all, talk to her in person if you can. Be civil with her, but be firm. Drawn-out half-breakups are more painful and stressful than clean breaks. Remind her of the positive things you see in her and tell her honestly why you don't want to be in a relationship anymore.
You aren't a fool and you aren't a bad person. You have shown you are considerate and patient, and those are two very important traits to have. I believe you are a kind person and it's just that you are frustrated and tired. It's okay to let her go.1