when I was in 9th grade I had a crush on this guy who turned out to be misery for my life...I put him into a category, moved on, and got into another relationship when I was 19 with the neighbor boy in my new neighborhood. I don't think I saw any potential in it but I went along with it anyways because the last guy, I thought, was going to be great and he was not maybe this guy seems like he is nothing but he's really great...turns out he was, and too great for me...or maybe I feel that way because he dumped me rather than me dumping him. anyways there is always going to be something that you do not like about someone, for him I did not like the fact that when he was talking to his friends and when he was talking to his parents his whole persona would change...and I really can't stand the missuse of grammer.I know I'm not perfect, but I don't intentionally go out to make an ass of myself.
Anyways..i did the whole dating 4 guys at one time...one was really old, he was nice though..he was from england, he liked grateful dead and he sold grinders...he has two cats, he got me drunk and smoked me out, but he was in his mid 30's and I don't know is there not some other younger single guy who wants to go have fun? I went on a date with a younger guy, which was the better of the dates that I went on because we actually did something other than the old movie popcorn thing...i went on a few other dates but either by the end of the night the guy was sticking his tongue down my throat or I was uninterested.
so I kind of floated around..I went to parties and hung out...and watched as my friends ate each others faces and you get the idea...I get involved with some a**hole who I thought might fall for it because he is a dirty smelly squatter f***ing d*** head. He had his girl toy come beat me up...he threw me down a hill blah blah he was very mean to me.
I know what's going to happen next...I'll go for the guy who is interested, maybe it will go somewhere, when it does not only than will I be ready to date. Except I'm tired of dating! and I don't want to end up alone...
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" ... turns out he was ... too great for me...or maybe I feel that way because he dumped me..."
No. No. No! Things happen and people break up. Sometimes neither of them is "at fault". And even when one is responsible for the break up, it does not mean anything about who is "great" or not. You sound pretty great and should not belittle yourself.
You mentioned dating an older guy. It bothered me that you said he was "really old", in his mid-30's. Oh, come on! That is not old! Yes, he was older than you, but not old, and definitely not really old. What you should have considered about him long before any thoughts of age, was that he was nice to you. I expect that means he treated you with respect, showed you that he cared about you, and you must have had fun with him. While you were with him you enjoyed life, did things you enjoyed, did not get beat up by someone's old girlfriend, etc. So what if he was older. Being with him made life enjoyable. You would have eventually found someone else that you became more interested in, or you would have not found someone else but continued with him. As you get older, the ten to fifteen year difference would really not matter that much, and you would have a lifetime of happy memories, not wondering what comes next.
Moving on from the age thing, you are too worried about looks. I know that it is easy to get that way, and I will admit that looks do play a significant part in initial attraction, and even some degree in keeping someone. BUT, in living your life and not worrying about finding someone, people will notice you and be attracted for who you are. It may seem like you are getting passed over a lot, but some people are going to enjoy you for just being you. And one of them is going to fall for you. If you fall for him, there you go. If not, keep on enjoying life and another will come along. As people get older, there is less push to do the "in" things with the "beautiful people". People begin to settle down and look at what is inside people. It is then that even more opportunities will present themselves.
By the way, I think you look fine. Back in my day, I would have been happy to be dating you based on looks, and from what you seem to be here, also on what is inside you. Be proud of yourself and stop focusing on any negative things.
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