It's not meant to stir a controversy but I got a little curious...
I've come across tons of post about a guy (usually) or a girl trying to date. It's usually along the lines of "I'm a sweet [personal gender] , with a [(positive)/(large quantity) adjective] personality. I'm good to [the opposite gender], but I can never get a date". I usually think to myself , "Well, you sound nice -what's the problem?"
Reading down a bit more they describe (or show) their physical attributes. It's usually because they're overweight that holds them back from dating said guy/girl (really skinny people are as equally unattractive, but this is a topic about being overweight). Then readers will accuse the person who turned down the author as shallow and that most girls/guys would date them because of their personality. Personality is nice and all, but it's not a quality that's strictly designated to people who are overweight.
I mean, we all know the basics of most mating rituals. Basically, the male (or female) who displays the best traits wins because the other sex finds this trait as a fit quality to pass on the next offspring. Our society is more likely to show empathy, but being overweight is something I doubt most people want to pass to their offspring. Sexual selection is practical.
So my question to you is, is it really shallow or do people need to start being realist about their mating limits?
Most Helpful Guy
I think you have a valid point, Without sounding sexist, but it seems more common for females then males to try to sugar coat their weight.
For example : BBW ( Big beautiful Woman), "More to love", "bundles of love",etc.
In the end, Even Nature's Law of the jungle on Survival of the fittest can also be applied to the dating world. The guy/girl who has the most appealing traits , Physically and Personality wise, Wins. NO one wants to admit it, but its a fact, In the end, you have try to better yourself or you will be swamped over by other people who are your competition at the same time.
IF your overweight, You better invest in a gym membership or a treadmill or a bike, because unfortunately your technically at the bottom of the barrel in the dating world. I used to be overweight, so I understand then most people. IF your like 20 lbs overweight, Your fine, but if your 50 lbs and above, not many people will approach you. Its sad but true, I'm just being a realist.
People need to be more realistic, but we are humans, very self conscious about things we are insecure about which is fine, but to be completely blind to what's a fact is almost borderline insane.
Thats like me walking around screaming out "The south will rise again!" While if that happened it won't spell too much good news for me.2