i dated this guy for about 3 months but it didn't last because he had a psycho ex girlfriend .. they're not officially together but I know he still talks to her and goes to her apartment to have sex sometimes .. me and him were friends w benefits for the past year but we haven't had sex in about 2 months .. but we are together every weekend .. me and my sister are friends with all his friends so we all always hang out .. I fell really hard for him and I still do care about him .. I'm confused now though because I was under the impression that we are just friends but then we were together sat night and he was all over me hugging me kissing me acting jealous when I was texting my cousin because I have her stored with a heart next to her name and I guess he only saw the heart and not her name so he was questioning me .. then he past a comment like "im torn between two girls - this one is crazy (me) and the other one is crazier (his ex) .. I just don't know how to feel or what to believe because he's played so many games in the past so I'm very insecure when it comes to him .. my sister swears that he still cares about me .. she says she can tell by the way he looks at me but I don't know .. someone please help !
Whats a man to do when he's torn between two?
What Guys Said 1
Your sister is correct and her evidence is convincing
The ex has a sex string on him and expects him to conform to her wishes as "payment", most of which are too controlling for him/anyone to obey, so she acts crazy to keep in line ... as much as possible. He is addicted to her good side & ssex but will never measure up to her obey desires. This can go on for years unless you step in to stop it and save him. I see this as a parallel to my past.
If you want him and away from the ex, you will have to be more aggressive than even her. How far are you willing to go to claim this prize? Throw studs her direction? Block her events with him by planning your own? Basically, you will have to invest the extraordinary time to be with him as close to 24/7 as possible, to smother the ex out. This may also mean doing whatever the hell he wants to do and be happy about it.0
What Girls Said 1
It sounds like he is a "player". It's hard when your intimate with someone, not serious, and have feelings for him. If you don't want to get hurt, I would suggest moving on, and fiding someone who will respect you more. Stuff like your in can lead to drama with the crazy Ex. BE CAREFUL. and remember, your worth more then to be "on the side". It's up to you.0
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