if you kiss a girl/makeout with her
before dating her or whatever. does that ruin the chances of you guys having a relationship in the future?
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No, but having sex (including oral) certainly does.
It's a crappy double-standard, but it definitely exists. A guy will always want sex, and will always be moving toward sex, "rounding the bases" to use the baseball metaphor. But he expects the girl to push back and set the pace; basically, to slow him down. If a girl goes too far on the first couple of dates/hangouts, he'll happily let her, but he won't respect her anymore (he'll assume she lets every guy do those things), and he'll never want a relationship with her. He won't consider her "relationship material" because she was too easy with him, so he assumes she is just as easy with other guys too, so he can't trust her.
Is that fair? Not completely, no, but in practice, a girl who lets him move to fast often IS easy, and his lack of trust IS often justified, so most guys won't take the chance of being burned.
As I say constantly here, if you want a RELATIONSHIP, you'd better get it BEFORE you have sex, or you'll never get it at all.