So how long is acceptable to email back and forth about unimportant "small talk" until you can actually meet someone in person? I've emailed with many women on the internet and have only gotten past that with one person. She gave me her number in an email and we started texting and then she randomly stopped and didn't return my texts. Am I just screwed and have to make small talk over online dating site emails until the women decide to give me their phone number or go to the next level? It seems like you spend 1-2 months online emails, 1-2 months texting, 1-2 months phone calls, before you even meet in person. And by that time you've waited so long that the person that walks in the door is someone totally different than you imagined, hence a huge disappointment and waste of your time. Is there a way to politely explain to women online that you are ready to move to the next step and meet in person, without making them think you are a predator or something?
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I always found that an issue with the guys I talked to when I was online. They always told me that I was one of the few that was actually willing to meet. I know how frustrating that can be. How else are people supposed to know if they are compatible if they don't meet in person? I always found that strange.
I think you need to be upfront early on that you intend on meeting them in person somewhere to further get to know them early on. This establishes that you are serious and are wanting to meet.
Obviously give it a couple of weeks, but if after that she is still wavering, she probably will never want to meet you. So don't waste your time.
I think that at tops, a month is the longest you should wait. My boyfriend and I probably were talking online for a couple months. But we were both super busy and any time we tried to make plans, they fell through. But once he was free and I was free, we met and haven't been away too long since :)