So before anyone makes a judgement call on me based on my question,I'm not shallow, I swear. I'm just so tired of being single and being alone for two and half years now that I truly just want to find a way of not being alone anymore. Also I started writing this to answer the one question above but as you'll see there are underling questions from the one.
Anyways, because of this inability of being in a relationship after I graduated college, I joined a dating site. Through it I started talking to a girl who seems really nice and I honestly like her personality. So I asked if she wanted to meet up some time, which we did and ended up sitting outside talking for almost 2 hrs. Well the issue is while I wouldn't say she is unattractive, I don't see her as being my attractive (if that makes any sense). I guess to put it another way, if I saw her from across a crowed room, she wouldn't catch my eye. but like I said her personality (for the bit I know) I'm attracted to.
With that being said I have no clue what to do? Part of me wants to see her again because I want that attention that only a significant other can provide and I want to be able to dote on someone that I care about again. But part of me says I would be settling if I did so and what about if I miss the opportunity to meet "the one" because I am focusing on this person that I'm indecisive about. But then again what if I do pass her by and continue to be alone, AND I'M TIRED OF BEING ALONE!
I have no clue what to do? and so there in came the thought, " Maybe I could just go on a few dates with her just so I am not alone."
Also I found out tonight that even though we never met before (and I checked on this, and its true) her brother is friends with my friends. So if I did say this isn't going to work to her or go on dates with her just so I'm not alone I don't want my friends to look down on me because of it.
IF someone could please help me I'd really appreciate the advise. Thank you in advance!
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I understand you're alone, I know how it is to be lonely but I don't think you should pursue her. I don't think it's fair to just settle, for her or you. You and her need to find people and be with people you love. And for her to find a man who finds her beautiful on the inside and out. And a women who finds you attractive on the inside and out.
I know if I found out a man I was dating didn't find me attractive I would be sad and feel like I was a waste of time to you and possibly like you were a waste of time to myself. I want to be with a man who finds me beautiful, and loves everything about me.. flaws and all. And I think a lot of women do. I wish I was in a relationship often, but then I think "what if they didn't even find me attractive?" There are a lot of things that make me not want to be in a relationship and I am lonely. I think for the sake of both of you find someone you really WANT to be with, and let her find someone who really WANTS to be with her.1