I never really intended to do any online dating, I just made a free profile for a site to see what was out there. Long story short, I met an amazing guy. We have not yet met in person (we live several hours away) but we have made plans to do so very soon.
I don't plan to tell my family about it until we are serious because knowing how things have happened in the past, I know it is smart to not bring my family into the picture until I am sure about someone. However, I am not sure how they will take it. They don't really understand the internet and are therefore afraid of it. I am fairly sure my father has never used the internet before. My brother just thinks that sort of thing is a huge joke. But I don't want to lie about it because that just seems like a way to doom a relationship.
What should I say? I don't want them to have tons of prejudgments about him, but I also don't want to wait until after they meet him to tell them. First of all, because I know it will go better if it is just me and also because I know they will ask as soon as I tell them I have been seeing someone.
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No offense here, but if your family judge him right in be beginning just because you met him on the internet, then fuck your family.
Simply put, you just tell them. If / When your relationship gets serious enough that you wanna start introducing each other to your respective families, I would suggest introducing them, I would just suggest bringing him in, and whenever the question comes up of "so, how did you two meet" you just tell them. If they give you shit because of it, or start getting quiet, or awkward glances, you can flatout say "don't give me that" and then back yourself up with whatever history you and your guy have made so far. You can tell them that you've been together for a while and it's going well, so they can just grow up.
Seriously, the stigma behind internet dating at this point is retarded. People get all scared or stupid, or prejudiced at the idea of people meeting online, when for one, it's become a great equalizer for people who might not get a chance in the dating scene because people still tend to make assumptions based on first glance appearances, and thus, now these people have the opportunity to have others get to know them BEFORE getting written off. But more importantly, it's fast becoming a great tool for meeting people you might not have had the time for, previously.
So if you've gotten to a point with this guy, that you and he know each other well enough, and are comfortable enough with each other, that you're willing to meet your respective families (which I can not stress how big a step that is for someone like me - I only ever introduced ONE girl to my mother) and yet still your family has the fucking nerve to get weird about it or give you shit about YOUR relationships, all just because of HOW you met someone, and doesn't meet up with their usual norms... Yeah if they give you shit, you can tell them to go fuck themselves.
Bottom line. Just tell them when they meet them, if they ask. You shouldn't have to hide it. You shouldn't have to be nervous about it. You shouldn't have to apologize for it. You shouldn't have to make any sort of fuss about it. If the relationship is good, who cares what they think? Why should you care?
Just tell them when the time comes.