It's happened to me a handful of times and to other guys I know as well. The guy will meet a new girl, who is completely infatuated with him (sometimes borderline obsessive), things are going great, then after a few weeks she breaks up with him. She'll be head over heals one second, and gone the next.
So how is it people can have a change of heart sometimes literally over night? Are girls emotions just fickle like that, where you can wake up one day and feel completely different about somebody or something than they did before?
BTW I do realize there are multiple factors and reasons why a girl might leave a guy early on (or in general) so it can be a case by case thing. But just answer based on your experience, like what was the reason you left the guy if you did this yourself or if a friend of yours did it.
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It's not just chicks that do that ... there are guys who are like that too. In fact, I think the're practically their own personality type. I call them "The Romantifiers" ...
These people are so crazy when something is new. They don't use their brains, they thrive on "winning" a relationship, rather than actually getting to know that person and building a strong foundation. They pick out a couple of traits they like, make up the rest and future-fake an imaginary fantasyland that they could build with this imaginary person. Also, attraction causes chemicals like dopamine to soar, leaving people with a giddy feeling like a cocaine high.
Then reality sets in. They can't live with who the real person is. They want the fantasy, not the good, the bad and the ugly.
There are other, even worse people who see the opposite gender as a "role-filler" too. They don't really love, they only find people to fill a selfish role. Often, these people fake enthusiasm and kindness to get the result they want.
Either way, that's why it's better to be prudent in romance. People who are head-over-heels at first are either infatuated (this is your brain on love dope) or manipulating you. People who are happy to get to know you and actively work to see if you are a good couple are much better.0
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