She thought she was ready to date. Maybe she was ready to date. Then life continued. Things change suddenly, the past surfaces unexpectedly, and someone's mental state shifts. Basically, sum it up as: Shit Happens.
If you honestly think you've got a good thing going, wait for her. But WAIT. Stop pressuring her for answers. Stop pushing for a yes/no/maybe so. She's already said she can't deal with it right now. All you're doing is making her deal with it. She gave you an out. She said she couldn't give you what you deserved. Stop being huffed that she isn't.
If you want a relationship this instant, it's time to move on. If you want a relationship with this woman, stick around. So what if you're friendly? Worst case scenario: You leave this situation with one more friend than you began.
You need to decide what you want. Then you need to respect what she wants.
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She obviously knew about her situation before joining the dating website. Her actions were very selfish and inconsiderate. Unfortunately, there are people like that in this world. My advice to you is to leave her alone and move on. She should have sorted out her problems before meeting new people, I'm sure you don't need that type of drama in your life. You said that 'I see us being really great together', no one knows or can ever foresee the future. 'We have a lot in common and share many of the same feelings and interest', there are thousands of other women with no dramas that probably share the same feeling and interest as you too. Sometimes you have to give and let go. The situation was not an honest or fair start to the relationship anyway.
I think maybe she's just scared cause she has strong feelings for you and her ex is making her feel like a mess and she doesn't want you to see that side of her and she's scared she's going to get hurt I think if you can try to show her you would be there for her no matter what your not gonna just bail the moment she breaks.
Bro,This must be very confusing to you. But I believe you should better stop trying so hard man. If she really cares for you she'll contact you. Just let it be for a while. Don't push things for it will have the opposite effect of what you would like to see happen. And if she stops cntacting you,., Yeah well I wouldn't like beeing with someone who doesn't sincerely wants to be with me, would you?
Dont look at the fact she signed up on a dating site man. Many people even just sign in for the heck of it and/or even while beeing in a relationship.
Were just ordinary people. We really don't know wich way to go sometimes...
I would give her some space, take what she says at face value, and be understanding and patient.
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Sounds like her ex is causing a lot of crap right now but hey... it's Vegas what do you expect? you got some real nut cases there, she probably doesn't want you getting in the middle of her arguments with her and her ex, of course I don't know what it would have to do with her ex when she dates other people but I guess there is a lot of jealous people out there these days. Id hang on for a bit and she how it goes.
If you are really interested then wait for her. I'm sure she'll come to an understanding that she will need this relationship later. Don't stop looking though.
My fellow bros, if a woman does this to you, she's not intrested. Stop overthinking this and making yourself look like a simp. Move on immediately and find another woman. For dating advice for men, look at Better Bachelor channel on Youtube.
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