Even if you really love your girlfriend to death if you do work a lot and have a crazy job in all honesty is there times when you really can't only text or call a once or twice a week?
Guys do you ever get so busy that you can't talk to your gf?
What Guys Said 27
It depends on the amount of time and where you are in the relationship, honestly.
For some people, a god morning and goodnight every day seems a little much. For others, it's expected.
I've had girlfriends that have wanted to have half hour conversations 5 times a day. That's way too much for most healthy people, and even if I weren't in "work mode" I wouldn't want to talk that much. I figure it's time to work. Not chat with my girlfriend.
I'm not big on texting conversations. All that being said, if I'm in a relationship, and I care about someone, even if I'm super busy, they'll get a call back... something, even if it's just a quick call to apologize and let her know when I'm more available. But, I've been brought up to return calls to most people (girlfriend or not). I realize that many people aren't.
I've worked insane hours as the security manager of a large scale casino, and despite that, I've always been able to make time for a girl I'm dating at the time. Especially for something as simple as a text or a call. Sometimes the small gestures can show how much you care.5
there are times in the day when I'm busy enough to where I can't text/call. But there's always small time intervals during lunch or when I'm off shift.2
I can't really guess how busy a trainer/manager's job would be, but I'd have trouble seeing how it couldn't allow for an occasional text and a decent conversation once a week.0
real people always make time, there is always time every body gets 24 hours a day, old poor or rich.4
Nope. I mean not being able to everyday, understandable. But not being able to even text over the period of a week? That'd have to mean I don't want to talk to her. Maybe other people's situations are different but finding time to text isn't difficult to that level.1
yeah, as much as girls won't admit it, they really don't want to be number one4
if I had a girlfriend I'd still find time to call her or talk to her etc2
Well if I had a girl as cute as you I would sure call a lot more than twice a week. :)3
oh so you met him online...if he is on his match.com account then he is looking for other women... one week with out not contact is a sign of break up... even one day without contact is bad.. if you really like someone. you talk everyday. and plus the longdistance isn't good either... if you want it to work then ask to move in with him or he moves in with you.. distance will but last long.. you see that now currently0
yes I had gotten so busy in the past0
I never have been to busy to not be able to make time for something I want. Even now when I work 50 hours, 6 days a week and have chores to do on the side.0
He might be moody .
He probably has a lot going on his life. And he might be a little depressed to. But I don't think he is playing you.0
well, I don't know if this is relevant but, in my past relationship, my ex was the busy one, but she still usually had time to talk and hang out. only times she couldn't was when she was actually at work and couldn't use her phone.1
yes... I been so busy that I don't even have time for family members once in a while1
No matter what I'd make time2
Yes a lot of times & yeah it pisses us off even more when she can't understand that0
Yes it's possible. Sometimes we get so stressed we don't want to talk to anyone.0
Whenever I am taking a dump I am extremely busy and want to be left alone1
yeah, although that will never be me.1
yeah, otherwise he is seen as needy, clingy, desperate3
Yes, it could happen. I actually will not call at all as a general rule its my girlfriend the one who calls.0
Never had a legit "girlfriend", but with girls I get close to and date, I find a way to talk to them a lot more than once or twice a week... your guy might be different though.0
What Girls Said 9
i saw you comment below, and I agree with 7gnat, you need to break up with him. The best way to do it is to just set your mind on it and do it quick and easy. You'll have to call him I assume since he's in another state, but just explain to him that he seems too busy for a girlfriend right now and that you need more from a boyfriend. He will try to talk you out of it, maybe even claim he'll change, but it won't last long. You want a guy who wants to see you and contact you, not one who was scared into it when you suggested a breakup. It doesn't have to be ugly, but be firm, stay polite, and then stick to it. Good luck!
P.S. There's no good that can come from signing into match.com. He's got time to woman surf but no time to call? Remember that when he trying to talk you out of breaking up.3
I feel like he'd make time somehow. Even with an extremely busy schedule, there should be someeee free time, like right before he goes to bed.
I don't know if this helps but I remember I was furiously busy two weeks before my college fashion design portfolio was due, I told the guy that I had feelings for that I was crazy busy and that it might be best if I don't talk to him for a week or two. I ended up texting him once of twice a day at least. xP
I know I'm a girl and all, but I doubt guys are much different.
But not everyone reacts to a busy life the same so I guess you just might not be able to find out for sure.
Perhaps you should just talk to him about it?0
That job is pretty high stress and crazy busy during the season.
However, he could make it a nightly thing to at least say hi before he goes to bed. Not a MUST, but I'd think if you were in a relationship, you'd find time to get in touch more than once or twice a week.
But it depends on the person. Guys don't really seem to handle stress very well in regard to multitasking with every day life things.0
im in the same position right now except my boyfriend is in the marines and its just been this weekend that he hasn't really talked to me but he's changed and he claims its because of work getting really crazy this week but I'm the type of person who thinks that everything is my fault so when he gets distant or doesn't act happy or changes I always assume that its me :/ I'm not sure of what to do right now either..1
yeah, happens to most of us I believe.0
He may not be playing you, but he may just feel that he needs a brief break from the relationship. Relationships can be very time consuming and they require a lot of energy. Sometimes it's like you feel like you have to go over and hang out and cuddle because you're their boyfriend/girlfriend so you're supposed to. When what you really want to do is go home and sleep or enjoy the company of your friends. So he may not be playing you, but then again he could be.0
he should at LEAST text2
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