*define "better" in your own terms.
"dating" refers to going steady, as well as sexuality and all the emotions involved with said above.
"it's not guys/girls, it's the ones you are choosing, and yes I said CHOOSING."
I have said the above (in some way) on countless questions since I've been on this site.
Some people have a hard time understanding that an entire gender isn't doing the same actions, the people that the person in question CHOOSES TO BE INVOLVED WITH, are the same.
Therefore, it's logical to figure out how to make better choices by figuring out the common threads between the previous bad choices, then learn to make better ones by knowing what traits / locations / scenarios NOT to look for when it comes to "dating".
But instead of doing that to fix the problem, we've seen people say things (especially on this site) such as:
*i'm getting discouraged by guys / girls*
*guys / girls are getting on my nerves*
*guys / girls are all the same*
...and other sweeping generalizations about the gender.
To make things even worse, the mentality behind these statements give off "bad vibes" from the person saying these things to people, WORSENING their dating situations by their negativity. :-X
So, why do you think that some people (including yourself) would rather scorn an entire gender, instead of taking responsibility for making bad "dating" choices and work to make better ones?
Please vote and reply as much as you like. Thanks for answering. :)
- I've fallen into this "scapegoating the gender" mentality at least onceVote A
- I can honestly say that I've never done that beforeVote B
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Because it's easier to blame one's own problems on other people so as to avoid taking responsibility for themselves. I've told countless girl friends the guy they were involved with was a d-bag or loser and let them just know what I thought and every time I've been proven right.
Too many people want the "coolest" person but don't realize it comes with it's own baggage and it always ends the same. It's like they can't see past week when it comes to value in a relationship, they're just having fun1