I recently told my brother that I have never even kissed a woman and he was just telling me how sorry he felt for me. He wasn't being mean. He was just looking me in the eyes for a while and telling me how he just simply couldn't believe it. It shocked him. One of the main reasons it shocked him is because I am honestly a good looking person. I have a good balanced masculine/ feminine face. I am 5 feel 11 inches tall with a full head of hair. I have perfect teeth and cute smile. I even give off that adorable shy guy vibe that is so cute because he looks kind of nervous. I also give off the vibe of someone who is mysterious. Not in that creepy way though. People see me as basically quiet, smart, and nice.
Anyway my problem is that women may come on to me or try to start a conversation but I immediately act oblivious to what they're doing because I have this deep fear I am going to end up terribly unhappy just like most people in this world are. I am not a guy who goes to clubs at all. I just don't do it. I don't smoke, take drugs, and I only drink alcohol about 5 or 6 days A MONTH.
So I don't have any major problems like that but I do keep people at a distance because I have a fear that I will end up unhappy. I see people in this world who try so hard and they still seem so unhappy in their relationship. So I stay away from relationships. So much so that I haven't even kissed or touch a woman.
I need an outside perspective. From what you have heard so far what do you think I need to do. Just help me. I will appreciate any constructive/ destructive criticism. That was a joke. Kind of.
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Cool. I think that's cute.
Anyway, I'm sure you've got guy friends. Try and maybe have one of them recommend a girl for you since they know your character and what kind of person you would be compatible with. You're obviously looking for a long term relationship but just know that if it doesn't work out, its not always a bad thing and if you realize it now, you'll realize it some day.
This might sound sexist but there are more good girls in the world than good guys so I don't think you should have any trouble. I say this because generally speaking, the world has a greater population of females than males :p
Don't let fear hold you back, a girl isn't going to throw herself onto you. Girls give hints, you need to take more initiative. Rejection is a part of life, it makes you stronger if anything.
There is nothing wrong with being shy. You seem like you would be really loyal to your girl... she's out there but you gotta at least TRY to look for her.
There is a chance you might end up unhappy but if you don't TRY then you WILL end up unhappy.