Even considering the fact I was raised by a single mom.
My stance is simple. I'm only 25, and my friends often hover around the same age. Unless they have kids themselves ( which is usually the case for ALREADY married or guys who plan to ).
I can certainly see the reasons for dating a woman, who may have a lot in common and be a great partner, but I do know it is an incredible venture to undertake and I've seen it fail too many times.
Recently I got into an argument with two women at a party ( sober party ) who had single mom friends and they blasted me as "scum".
I think there's plenty of guys in their mid 30s and older who are financially secure and will take on a young 20 year old with a kid or two.
However I also know too many young guys will be guilt ridden to stay with a girl and worse, they may only have one kid themselves and trust me, people ALWAYS prefer their OWN KIDS, so it will really never balance itself out.
Now if I end up being a single dad at 40, I'll probably actively seek a woman of similar age and with a kid. However I'm 25 and so are most of my friends in the mid 20s.
Am I bad person?
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It's not really up to you to dictate that though - especially for your friends.
I get that it's a lot of responsibility and there's it's negative aspects, but how do you think kids get step parents?
I mean, my real father left when I was really young, and my step dad came about when he was your age, and took care of me even though I wasn't his kid. He didn't have to, he just wanted to.
It's an iffy situation.
Young men believe that pregnancy doesn't happen at all with sex. Delusion of being young and having birth control - so a lot of guys would typically avoid kids anyway.
However, if your friend is alright with dating a woman with children, and he's aware of what he's getting into, I don't see how it's suddenly a terrible circumstance.
But then again - women seem to be more inclined to taking in children instead of rejecting them whether they are biological are not. So maybe that's why I don't think helping someone raise a kid is so awful if you too are serious.
Your not bad for looking out for your friends, just understand women see it a bit differently. All that really matters is the well being of the child - not so much whom it belongs to.
Men are more concerned with whom it belongs to - and even then, a lot of guys still shun the responsibility.0
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