Can you actually steal someone's boyfriend/girlfriend?

[thisislifebaby]

When ever people say this it just sounds like the person that they supposedly "stole" has literally no say in anything like they are and inanimate object or something. I think this is literally the stupidest saying and puts the blame on the wrong person. For example two girls are friends one girl has a boyfriend the boyfriend ends up with the other girl but the girl gets blamed and not the guy isn't the guy's fault in that situation. Opinions?

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By the way the situation I suggest is just an example it isn't happening in my life right now but it partially happened to me once.

[Konnour]

It is real thing for sure.. like when you have a MAJOR crush to a girl, but she's with one of your male friends.. what you gonna do? Stay back? Don't think so.

You'll show your best... and attract her away from him.

So if her current guy is really not good enough for her, only he if anybody is to be "blamed" if they break-up.

People like to 'let themselves go' both look-wise and attitude-wise after a while, also many couples are unhappy but still stay together because they're afraid to be single, though not with their right matches.

And when the right match comes around - what there is to lose?

[adam__808]

There might be a lot of fault with all three parties involved. The girl who got left might not have been trying to keep her man. The girl that got the boyfriend might have been trying to break into the relationship. The boyfriend might have had a straying eye. What actually happened was probably a combination of all three, but I don't pass judgment.

[cazza3]

I completely agree with you. I've seen it happen so many times, the boyfriend cheats but its the other girls fault. Your boyfriend is the one who is suppose to be loyal and faithful to you. Why should some random woman care about you? Would she even know a girlfriend exists?

In the scenario you've mention, however, both the girl and guy are to blame in equal measures. Unless its my sister or close friends then its all going to land on him. But perhaps if women showed a little more camaraderie and a little less jealousy and competitiveness then this sh*t might be a little less common.

[PinkPenguin]

It's true. It is the guys fault, but girls won't admit that. They need someone to blame, and blaming the guy doesn't get them anywhere closer to him, so they blame the girl. Personally I would blame both of them as they really have their own say in this matter. Been in this award position myself as the other girl, unintentionally of course. I was lucky to get out of it alive, without having to lose my friend, and without losing my boyfriend.

[UberTroll]

Yeah I agree. Girls tend to be very irrational about this kinda thing. It takes two to tango... I remember once this couple I knew and the guy cheating with his girlfriend's best friend. His girlfriend then cut her best friend out of her life once she found out but stayed together with the guy. Makes no sense... I would have cut them both out.

[darlanoy0510]

I think anything it's possible. From your situation I just think that the guy doesn't have enough love for the girl that's why he fell for her friend. But I think it sad that other girl would date her BFF ex .

[Ash235]

Its all a puzzle may find had to fill. But the guy is to blame in all this...we usually take wrong sides when it comes to such cases...don't be taken by it!

[NerdInDenial]

There's a special bond between the girls. The other girl should have not dated or at least notify her friend that she may go after her ex. It a code of ethics. Just because you can doesn't mean you should.

[baliguy11]

yup. girls do this often because they understand guy's weaknesses. Yeah the guy is at fault for being a guy but the girl teased along.