I've been getting to know this guy for about 2 months. He just recently told me that he has a child. I'm not really a motherly figure, I don't have the patience for children that other girls might. I think he picked up on my withdrawal after he told me. I want to give him a chance because he seems like a nice person. He says that he and his child's mother have a good relationship with little to no drama.
I've heard stories of the child driving the other woman away because of jealousy and such. Just want some other opinions. I know it is ultimately what I make of it, but I haven't been on here in ages and want to see what you guys have to say!
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No offense, but I am taking the cynical route:
For starters: HE should have told you in the first place that he was a single father so that you could have made an informed decision upon if you wanted the broken leftovers of another woman. Nevertheless, if you choose to continue to deal with a man that withhold vital information such as that from you, G_D knows what the hell else could he be hiding from you.
Second of all: If you believe there is potential jealousy of another woman pertaining to the guy, perhaps it is a situation you probably should not even enter into. It sounds like a whole hell of a lot of drama... Unless you love drama, and suspense in your life... To each their own!
Finally, you must consider one thing... Let's just trvel to that magical world of "If and when", where unicorns and lying pigs exist, and ask ourselves something: If things do work out, would I want to be bothered with a snotty little brat that is likely to disrespect and ignore me because I am "Not MOMMY"...
You re probably better off with a guy without kids.
For the record, any fool with a d*ck can have a baby. IT DOES NOT MAKE THEM RESPONSIBLE! Responsibility would be having children with someone when you are really sure of being tolerating the bitch/bastard for at least 18 years... Otherwise, he is just another dumbass that stuck his penis in a vagina without a condom and brought another human in this world...
Pros: Not sure if there are any...
Cons: Mother of said child and her jealousy, Drama if mother is a total c*nt and disallow his visitation, his LACK of responsibility, Child may grow to be a nuisance to you, Child support (She may be taking him for a nice chunk of money that could be used for other crap... like dating you), and The joy of being second rate wen you should be first.0