I asked my close guy friend about this a week ago or so. He's 20 & I asked him "what advice would you give to me, an 18 year old about life." He tried listing out things, but in the end, he was like "I really have no advice to give I suppose." He listed small things, like don't have sex because a guy wants you to & that it's not cute to get hammered and act like our friends do. But nothing further. I'll take advice with a grain of salt, but I'm sure the 30+ group has something to say
What advice would you give to an 18 year old girl or boy?
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1. Keep your finances under control. This is one of the hardest lessons for younger people to learn, but it's the difference between a path to wealth or a path to "indentured servitude" to a bank/job. You CAN get by without buying everything your friends have, you really can.
2. No one, and I mean NO ONE, not your parents, not you friends, NO ONE is going to do for you the things you need to do, so you have to learn to do them yourself. if you wait for other people to do them, you'll waste years of your life waiting.
3. If you want something, GO GET IT and GO MAKE IT HAPPEN. Don't sit and dream and wish, GO DO IT. Set realistic goals, with several achievable points along the way, and then work hard to achieve them.
4. You have NO IDEA what it costs to live like you do, and how hard it is to earn that money, so start by lowering your standards along with your spending. If you can stay at home for a while, do so, even if it means following the house rules that you feel you've outgrown, or having to help around the house. Living on your own give you lots of freedom, but also a HUGE amount of responsibility, esepcially financially.
5. When you're 18, you think you know nearly everything important (this is a universal experience). When you're 21-22-23 and you look back on the things you thought were important at 18, you'll think you were an idiot, because the real world will have "adjusted" a lot of your naive ideas. And suddenly a lot of people you thought were stupid when you were 18 will seem a whole lot smarter.
6. Keep your relationships in perspective, and don't lose the rest of yourself in your relationship. Keep your education and/or your career and your other life-goals on track. If you relationship is screwing any of those up in a serious way, no matter HOW MUCH you think you love that person, you probably need to cut that relationship loose.
7. Don't get into relationships with people at work. It WILL end badly, and then you'll hate having to see that person all the time, and if they are nasty about it, you'll be miserable, but you'll also be trapped and will have to quit your job to avoid it. Instead, date FRIENDS of co-workers or friends of friends.
8. Most guys don't have a clue what they want and aren't serious or responsible about ANYTHING until they're 25-30 years old. Act accordingly in all your interactions with them. Yes, there are a handful of exceptions, and it won't be hard to identify them once you realize what you're looking for.5
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